"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

Re-kindle old relationship ...

Aesthetix29

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 16, 2014
Messages
423
Reaction score
64
okay so to keep a long story short ... I still have feeling for someone I was seeing a few months ago to which fizzled out ... Now we're both on each other's social media and at the minute were playing Facebook likes tennis ... So what would be a good break the ice text too send her ... So she knows I'm interested? Surely it's not as simple as a quick 'hey' text?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

Tictac

Banned
Joined
Jul 28, 2009
Messages
3,668
Reaction score
1,244
Location
North America, probably an airport
It can be done. But it's a major pain in the ass. You need to decide if it's worth it.

There are about a thousand 'get your ex back' programs from the web, including 'text your ex back' ideas.
 

Aesthetix29

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 16, 2014
Messages
423
Reaction score
64
Technically she's not an ex we was just dating/fvcking! And yes I do think it's worth it, she's a cool girl ... Not a pycho or anything, I just need a decent approach
 

dustmuffin

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 21, 2015
Messages
2,495
Reaction score
1,423
Age
63
Technically she's not an ex we was just dating/fvcking! And yes I do think it's worth it, she's a cool girl ... Not a pycho or anything, I just need a decent approach
Ask her out. Hey I'm going bowling Saturday. Why don't you come along?
 

Tictac

Banned
Joined
Jul 28, 2009
Messages
3,668
Reaction score
1,244
Location
North America, probably an airport
Technically she's not an ex we was just dating/fvcking! And yes I do think it's worth it, she's a cool girl ... Not a pycho or anything, I just need a decent approach
Then look up Michael Fiore's "Text Your Ex Back". But if you're going to do stuff like this, buy one and do the work. I have buds that have done this stuff. All he 'programs' amount to the same thing.

May God have mercy on your soul.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

dustmuffin

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 21, 2015
Messages
2,495
Reaction score
1,423
Age
63
Then look up Michael Fiore's "Text Your Ex Back". But if you're going to do stuff like this, buy one and do the work. I have buds that have done this stuff. All he 'programs' amount to the same thing.

May God have mercy on your soul.
Did this work for your buddies? Not trying .yself just curious
 

dustmuffin

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 21, 2015
Messages
2,495
Reaction score
1,423
Age
63
Kinda, sorta, maybe.....

One of them got back in touch and has seen an old flame. He thought she'd never speak to him as he ghosted her a couple of years earlier.
My mom married her hs sweetheart 35 years after the fact. But that may be different.
 

Aesthetix29

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 16, 2014
Messages
423
Reaction score
64
Ask her out. Hey I'm going bowling Saturday. Why don't you come along?
That's what I'm thinking ... Just hope I'm not misreading her signals, but she's the type of girl who's really forward, and if she liked me then she'd tell me ... Or st least I think she would.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

Read more...

dustmuffin

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 21, 2015
Messages
2,495
Reaction score
1,423
Age
63
That's what I'm thinking ... Just hope I'm not misreading her signals, but she's the type of girl who's really forward, and if she liked me then she'd tell me ... Or st least I think she would.
Just ask her out dont worry if she likes you.
 

Aesthetix29

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 16, 2014
Messages
423
Reaction score
64
Thanks for your advice think I'm just going too shoot her a message later saying 'Hey stranger' and see if she replies.
 

Aesthetix29

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 16, 2014
Messages
423
Reaction score
64
**** it i'm going too bite the bullet and send her this 'Hey stranger ... What you up2?' If she recipricrates then great, if not then atleast I know where I stand and can move on. I have a feeling it's going too be matesy texting.
 

JohnChops

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 9, 2012
Messages
2,734
Reaction score
481
Location
No more keyboard jockeying . Action is the place.
"hey stranger what are you up to" REALLY.

That just screams weak dude. Shouldve just texted her saying "hi" or "hey" then some BS fluff talk, then ask when shes free, pick a day, go out. Simple. This whole beatingaround the bush bs must stop.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

Aesthetix29

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 16, 2014
Messages
423
Reaction score
64
Well I've not sent it yet ... Just wanted too keep it simple really, Let's see if I can come up with something better :)
 

Tictac

Banned
Joined
Jul 28, 2009
Messages
3,668
Reaction score
1,244
Location
North America, probably an airport
Recall a good memory with her - Me and a couple friends went to (place you and her went) and (did __________). That place was fun! Like the time you and I ________...

Keep it short, make her smile.
 

Aesthetix29

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 16, 2014
Messages
423
Reaction score
64
yes I know that .. Thanks again and when I actually think of something decent .. I'll keep you all updated m
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

Top