rate this conversation with this cutie for me, I found a ‘technique’ that seems to build rapport

[Travel memoir21]

Critique this texting conversation for me. I found a good technique to build rapport and that’s to follow up a statement for every question you have to ask so your not in interview mode and it helps spicen the conversation and makes it more natural. For example, you can ask ‘ whats your favorite food? ‘ then you say ‘ Im into donuts this time of the year’ and so on. It helps makes things more natural and makes it look like your a talk show host like Jimmy Fallon or Leno. What do you guys think? How should I spicen or add onto this? She’s half Filipina and Singaporean. This should be interesting lol

 

[Travel memoir21]

Yeah this technique doesn’t just apply to women, it applies to all sorts of people, dudes and children aswell.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

If you want to be in the friendzone, like a 97

 

[Travel memoir21]

If you want to be in the friendzone, like a 97

If she likes you, she likes you....you just need a build a sense of connection the way I see it.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

If she likes you, she likes you....you just need a build a sense of connection the way I see it.

It's meaningless until you meet in person.

That's why these guys who think they have a woman who is in love with them after talking for a month get ghosted after they meet for the first time.

Attraction only matters when you have it in person with the other person. Anything else is a meaningless waste of time.

 

[The Duke]

It's not bad. Just because she is answering your questions doesn't mean you have established rapport. I think you have cracked the door open. Need to take it deeper so it gets more engaging, that's when rapport develops.

Too much of this gets boring and people will lose interest.

You will also waste a lot of time with girls that just want a penpal.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

You don't want to be bland with edgy girls OP

 

[Travel memoir21]

You don't want to be bland with edgy girls OP

Like I said, if she likes you…she likes you…all you gotta do is be a good conversationalist, form a sense of connection and escalate when the the time is right. You don’t want to be trying to hard is my philosophy. The real test is whether this girl got a good heart and is a decent woman with character. The art of screening is not emphasized enough in this site.

 

[Bible_Belt]

The art of screening is not emphasized enough in this site

Have you screened her to make sure she doesn't have a d1ck? Because I can't tell.

 

[Travel memoir21]

 

[Travel memoir21]

lol see this texting and conversation technique seems to work with all sorts of women. This one is an independent Latina working in South Texas where Im from. That secretary I was talking to you about, she went out of her way to give me cool financial advise on where to invest my money lol! geez.

 

[Travel memoir21]

Have you screened her to make sure she doesn't have a d1ck? Because I can't tell.

Hey man…Thank god I wont be there to find out, see nothing serious happening with this one. Im looking for a wife and best friend, not a trend setting partner.

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

Practicing conversation and working through jitters is one thing, focusing attention on the ones who facilitate mutual captivation and curiosity is another. It seems, and I could be wrong here, that you were putting a lot of effort into the conversation. I didn't see her asking you any questions. Good thing is that there are over a billion more. Happy hunting.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Just an FYI, too much comfort early on will land you in the friend zone.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Just an FYI, too much comfort early on will land you in the friend zone.

OP isn't planning to Fvck any of these women so I'm not sure what exactly the point is of any of it.

Even if he gets them to meet up, it's not going to be a true test of anything since he isn't being sexual...

Women will happily entertain all sorts of guys who have no shot with them if they enjoy the convo. However, the minute you try and turn it into a "date" type scenario they bounce up out of there.

That's the whole point tho...OP isn't pushing any boundaries so none of this really mean much of anything other than he is another guy who talks to them for a month without meeting up and nothing happens.

 

[Clockwerk50]

OP isn't planning to Fvck any of these women so I'm not sure what exactly the point is of any of it.

Even if he gets them to meet up, it's not going to be a true test of anything since he isn't being sexual...

Women will happily entertain all sorts of guys who have no shot with them if they enjoy the convo. However, the minute you try and turn it into a "date" type scenario they bounce up out of there.

That's the whole point tho...OP isn't pushing any boundaries so none of this really mean much of anything other than he is another guy who talks to them for a month without meeting up and nothing happens.

Everything is wrong here. If the conversation he is having is boring to us, who are men mostly driven by rational thoughts, I can’t imagine how boring it is for the woman. Also, logically, OP is screening for a wife when, in reality, he doesn’t even know if the woman is romantically attracted to him or sexually interested in him. Without attraction, none of the “compatibility” talk matters.

If OP wants a wife, he should focus on being financially independent, moving out of his parents’ house, and demonstrating the ability to lead a relationship. I am sure a woman looking to marry is not going to find a man who is still dependent on his parents very attractive or trustworthy enough to take care of her well-being. Like you said, as men we "penetrate" barriers, I don't see it in his posts.

 

[Travel memoir21]

Everything is wrong here. If the conversation he is having is boring to us, who are men mostly driven by rational thoughts, I can’t imagine how boring it is for the woman. Also, logically, OP is screening for a wife when, in reality, he doesn’t even know if the woman is romantically attracted to him or sexually interested in him. Without attraction, none of the “compatibility” talk matters.

If OP wants a wife, he should focus on being financially independent, moving out of his parents’ house, and demonstrating the ability to lead a relationship. I am sure a woman looking to marry is not going to find a man who is still dependent on his parents very attractive or trustworthy enough to take care of her well-being. Like you said, as men we "penetrate" barriers, I don't see it in his posts.

Lol Im a retired Air Force Veteran making 50-60 K a year, Im not a rich dude but Im not broke either. As for my parents, I can leave whenever I want, but I like living with them because I personally don’t like living alone and my parents have health problems I gotta take care of. Were like roommates, we help take care of each other for now. Good stuff bro, I’ll keep you updated on my situation, but yes eventually, Id have to move out someday and Im thinking of several places abroad … places like Japan, Thailand and Europe seems like good choices.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Everything is wrong here. If the conversation he is having is boring to us, who are men mostly driven by rational thoughts, I can’t imagine how boring it is for the woman. Also, logically, OP is screening for a wife when, in reality, he doesn’t even know if the woman is romantically attracted to him or sexually interested in him. Without attraction, none of the “compatibility” talk matters.

If OP wants a wife, he should focus on being financially independent, moving out of his parents’ house, and demonstrating the ability to lead a relationship. I am sure a woman looking to marry is not going to find a man who is still dependent on his parents very attractive or trustworthy enough to take care of her well-being. Like you said, as men we "penetrate" barriers, I don't see it in his posts.

Agree...that's where so many men go wrong when they spend a month or two talking to women on these apps building up a "connection" and thinking that will somehow override the fact she has zero attraction when she meets them in person, then can't understand why they got ghosted by her after the first date.

It's because they are doing it all backwards...the attraction part has to come first, and that can only happen in person. Which is why the goal should always be to get these women out as quickly as possible so you can disqualify them or they can disqualify themselves without wasting a ton of time.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Lol Im a retired Air Force Veteran making 50-60 K a year, Im not a rich dude but Im not broke either. As for my parents, I can leave whenever I want, but I like living with them because I personally don’t like living alone and my parents have health problems I gotta take care of. Were like roommates, we help take care of each other for now. Good stuff bro, I’ll keep you updated on my situation, but yes eventually, Id have to move out someday and Im thinking of several places abroad … places like Japan, Thailand and Europe seems like good choices.

I’m sorry about your parents, and I don’t mean to offend, but if you really want a wife, you need to focus on demonstrations of higher value. These are the traits and behaviors that increase perceived mate value and create attraction, which then gives you access to more desirable partners. Psychological research consistently shows that qualities like independence, leadership, competence, social dominance, and stability, when clearly demonstrated, are attractive to women.

The reality is that income level, appearance, and living arrangements all factor into this whether we like it or not. Right now, those factors are working against you, and based on your messages here, it’s clear that the women you’re talking to are not showing romantic or sexual interest. Attraction is only the initial stage. After that comes comfort and trust building, and then seduction. If the first stage isn’t established, you never get access to the others. If attraction is never built, you can forget about having a wife.

I’m just to be honest about what’s actually happening and don't mean to put you down.

 

[Travel memoir21]

I’m sorry about your parents, and I don’t mean to offend, but if you really want a wife, you need to focus on demonstrations of higher value. These are the traits and behaviors that increase perceived mate value and create attraction, which then gives you access to more desirable partners. Psychological research consistently shows that qualities like independence, leadership, competence, social dominance, and stability, when clearly demonstrated, are attractive to women.

The reality is that income level, appearance, and living arrangements all factor into this whether we like it or not. Right now, those factors are working against you, and based on your messages here, it’s clear that the women you’re talking to are not showing romantic or sexual interest. Attraction is only the initial stage. After that comes comfort and trust building, and then seduction. If the first stage isn’t established, you never get access to the others. If attraction is never built, you can forget about having a wife.

I’m just to be honest about what’s actually happening and don't mean to put you down.

Lol the second chick went out of her way to write a WHOLE ESSAY about making the right financial investments. So I don’t know about not having a slight attraction…but I guess you’re right, that I do need to start working on some of these factors, as for moving out, I have to make sure my parents are okay first. My GI Bill will pay me 2.5 K per month to study abroad for base housing, Im looking into that and using that period to start more adventures, hopefully, we shall see.