"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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crazyman11

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Today, i went to my city's annual celebration of itself. I was supposed to meet a girl there(my friend told me she likes me, and i can tell she does when i talk to her), but i had to help out take apart stuff, and move things. I didn't get a chance to talk to her after because she had to go to church, and it was getting late.

I won a stuffed penguin, so i told her i have a surprise for her tomorrow, and she is just dying to know what it is. Tomorrow at school, probably in the morning, i am gonna say "I won this penguin. If you want it, you gotta do something for me" when she asks what she has to do, i'll say "Meet me here at lunch, and hang out with me". What do you guys think of that?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I don't see why it wouldn't work. It doesn't matter how you ask her. If she likes you, she'll say yes.
 

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hmm good but I'd change asking her if she wants it to something like "I'm gonna give it to you after we hang out at lunch".

It's just more fun and less of the typical "you gotta do something for me" stuff.
 

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Well, i stuck to my plan, and this morning i couldnt get her alone(I didnt have enough time, i had to go to class) So i said my line:flowers: , but she didn't respond -_- She just stood there, but luckily i know a couple of her friends and they said "Just say yes!" so i gave her the stuffed animal and went to class. Then came lunch, we just talked at lunch, but nothing really happened. It was like one of our convo's we have online(which isn't a bad thing). Should i do the same thing tomorrow? If i do it tomorrow, i wanna get some kino cuz that didn't happen today, so i need some tips on how to initiate kino!!! Thx for the help guys:cool:

Edit: One more thing, if this helps, i've known her since last march, but we never really started talking until a couple weeks ago
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Actualy, forget what I said. Maybe do the same concept, with the prize being a date or something like that.
 

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Yea, that's what i was thinking. Maybe go out to a karts & golf(go karts, and mini golf) with her, or ask her to homecoming

Oh, one more thing. Her birthday is this saturday, what would be something nice to get her, or should i get her anything?
 

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crazyman11 said:
Yea, that's what i was thinking. Maybe go out to a karts & golf(go karts, and mini golf) with her, or ask her to homecoming

Oh, one more thing. Her birthday is this saturday, what would be something nice to get her, or should i get her anything?
You're overanalyzing, so just make her a cool card and give it to her.
You don't even need to buy the paper!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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