That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Send a DM
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Very interestedI'll give a link to my youtube channel if anyone is interested. Please pm me.
I'll take any feedback on how I look.
I keep trying to explain to people that looks alone are not going to work magic for you unless you are so hot you are like a model and she doesn't care about anything else. And you would know this because they would be approaching you non-stop of this was the case and essentially telling you straight up that they want to fvck.I'm shocked by the feedback. I have a 99% rejection rate so I assumed I'm ugly fugly but people are saying otherwise. Some are saying I need a haircut, but I don't know what to do with my hair.
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and got a 75/100, so basically a 7.5/10, face and body. Again, surprised at that too.
Very true! I think a lot of my rejections are due to the age gap.I keep trying to explain to people that looks alone are not going to work magic for you unless you are so hot you are like a model and she doesn't care about anything else. And you would know this because they would be approaching you non-stop of this was the case and essentially telling you straight up that they want to fvck.
Outside of that, social skills, social tact, understanding interpersonal dynamics, having good body language, knowing how to carry yourself, and knowing how to carry on interesting conversations in person that have enough sexual innuendo and tension built in to create some sort of differentiator between you being a nice guy and you being someone she wants to fvck are the likely things missing.
It's trial and error on dates where you keep things that work regularly and you throw out things that don't work regularly and then you keep refining and refining until you have a basic cookie cutter starting point that works more often than not and you adapt it to individual women based on the patterns you have seen with similar women that worked prior.
There is a concept called Time on Task where your abilities in a certain area directly correlate to the amount of time spent practicing/using your skills in that area. It's known by other names too, but the basic concept is the same...if you want to become good at something, you have to spend a lot of time at it at first, without getting a lot of results. As time goes on, you start improving results much quicker with less time spent so that it is not like a straight line curve but more like a curve that starts out flat for a long while and then starts slowly going up and then going up faster and faster once you reach a certain point.
How long that takes is highly individualistic because it depends a lot on how well you are at analyzing each date, how good you are at setting up and getting dates and how long of a period it takes to get say 100 dates. Dates on a consistent basis so you have practice over and over again with only a short time between them so you can actively adapt will serve much better than weeks between dates where it becomes harder to remember things and make the proper adjustments.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Thanks! Again, I'm surprised honestly. I thought my looks went really downhill after covid, after the stress I had.I like the man. Solid 8/10.
Here's the exact recipe boys...its up to you.I keep trying to explain to people that looks alone are not going to work magic for you unless you are so hot you are like a model and she doesn't care about anything else. And you would know this because they would be approaching you non-stop of this was the case and essentially telling you straight up that they want to fvck.
Outside of that, social skills, social tact, understanding interpersonal dynamics, having good body language, knowing how to carry yourself, and knowing how to carry on interesting conversations in person that have enough sexual innuendo and tension built in to create some sort of differentiator between you being a nice guy and you being someone she wants to fvck are the likely things missing.
It's trial and error on dates where you keep things that work regularly and you throw out things that don't work regularly and then you keep refining and refining until you have a basic cookie cutter starting point that works more often than not and you adapt it to individual women based on the patterns you have seen with similar women that worked prior.
There is a concept called Time on Task where your abilities in a certain area directly correlate to the amount of time spent practicing/using your skills in that area. It's known by other names too, but the basic concept is the same...if you want to become good at something, you have to spend a lot of time at it at first, without getting a lot of results. As time goes on, you start improving results much quicker with less time spent so that it is not like a straight line curve but more like a curve that starts out flat for a long while and then starts slowly going up and then going up faster and faster once you reach a certain point.
How long that takes is highly individualistic because it depends a lot on how well you are at analyzing each date, how good you are at setting up and getting dates and how long of a period it takes to get say 100 dates. Dates on a consistent basis so you have practice over and over again with only a short time between them so you can actively adapt will serve much better than weeks between dates where it becomes harder to remember things and make the proper adjustments.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
This is some Yoda ass advice.Plinco, I can tell a lot about you by this simple thread you have started.
You are looking outward to validate your looks. That tells me you lack confidence in yourself and you aren't aware where you stack up. This is your biggest hurdle to get over.
A man that is successful knows he has many other arrows in his quill that he can rely on to get the job done. He isn't going to fret over his looks not being good enough.
Look inward if you want success, no matter what you are wanting to accomplish.
I've started to question myself more after seeing that I only had one date from 96 approaches last year. If there's nothing wrong with the way I look, then I feel relieved. The rest of it I can control, besides my age.Plinco, I can tell a lot about you by this simple thread you have started.
You are looking outward to validate your looks. That tells me you lack confidence in yourself and you aren't aware where you stack up. This is your biggest hurdle to get over.
A man that is successful knows he has many other arrows in his quill that he can rely on to get the job done. He isn't going to fret over his looks not being good enough.
Look inward if you want success, no matter what you are wanting to accomplish.
Which points to whatever you are currently doing is not working and it's up to you to start analyzing and adjusting things.Very true! I think a lot of my rejections are due to the age gap.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.