Okay, I need SERIOUS help building rapport. I look at one of my best friends and he can have a 2 hr convo with a girl about anything in the world and she'll open up to him and **** whereas i'll tlak to a girl for liek 5-10 mins and i don't know how to build ANY rapport...I"ve read articles and it still doesn't seem to help. I can do pretty much everytrhing else fine. HELP ME!!!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Rapport is a huge topic, probably the most important out of all the seduction phases. Read the Rapport section or (covo) section in the bible
Okay, and not that this has ANYTHING to do with anything on this but smooth...coudl you emial me the HSDJ bootcamp @ [email protected] , that would be of a great help too 
thanks.
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