You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
True, women just don't operate that way. A guy can only get so far with rapport. After that it takes time to escalate rapport to comfort, from comfort to romance and from romance to intimacy.Go getta said:cant do that with in minutes man...
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That's just basic rapport. It's all about gaining mutual agreement on a particular topic or two.April_Infinite said:I meant those guys that seem to connect with women extremely fast, within 10 minutes of talking to them, can get them smiling and such.
Personally, I don't think that there is such a thing as deep rapport (at least not quickly). Rapport in itself is just gaining a basic comfort level when you initially meet someone. Why would a woman open up to you on a deep level if she has just met you?April_Infinite said:So you are telling me that when you are trying to get into deep rapport with someone, you fish for a topic that both of you agree on?
Yes, that's very effective.Francisco d'Anconia said:Pay attention to where you are and what's going on around you, that's your in-road to gaining rapport.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I'd be careful making fun of people, even doing it just a bit could make you seem insecure. And if the woman enjoys it, she may be the type of woman who regularly puts down others. Bad attitude and possible high maintenance.Max Power said:Yes, that's very effective.
Making fun of the people around you can work if you don't over do it.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.