Rapport w/in minutes

[April_Infinite]

I am wondering, in what ways to you guys quickly get in rapport with a woman? I mean deep rapport, as in telling each stuff that's beyond daily chit chat. It can be random women when you are sarging, or just women you know in general.

 

[Go getta]

cant do that with in minutes man

but simply just build a connection with her. find a common ground between you two. like a common interest or something. then just talk about that. generally after talking with her for a will you two will grow closer and closer as time goes on

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

That's like saying, "How do you make a Thanksgiving turkey within minutes?" You can't do it, at least not in a way that's going to end very well.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

cant do that with in minutes man...

True, women just don't operate that way. A guy can only get so far with rapport. After that it takes time to escalate rapport to comfort, from comfort to romance and from romance to intimacy.

 

[April_Infinite]

I meant those guys that seem to connect with women extremely fast, within 10 minutes of talking to them, can get them smiling and such.

But yeah, then tell me how you guys do it within a reasonable time.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I meant those guys that seem to connect with women extremely fast, within 10 minutes of talking to them, can get them smiling and such.

That's just basic rapport. It's all about gaining mutual agreement on a particular topic or two.

 

[Max Power]

Try Gunwitch methold

http://www.gunwitch.com/seduction/gwm1.html

 

[April_Infinite]

So you are telling me that when you are trying to get into deep rapport with someone, you fish for a topic that both of you agree on?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

So you are telling me that when you are trying to get into deep rapport with someone, you fish for a topic that both of you agree on?

Personally, I don't think that there is such a thing as deep rapport (at least not quickly). Rapport in itself is just gaining a basic comfort level when you initially meet someone. Why would a woman open up to you on a deep level if she has just met you?

Besides, if you have to fish for a topic to gain that initial, immediate comfort level, you're missing out on how to effectively engage a woman you've just met. Pay attention to where you are and what's going on around you, that's your in-road to gaining rapport.

 

[Max Power]

Pay attention to where you are and what's going on around you, that's your in-road to gaining rapport.

Yes, that's very effective.

Making fun of the people around you can work if you don't over do it.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Yes, that's very effective.

Making fun of the people around you can work if you don't over do it.

I'd be careful making fun of people, even doing it just a bit could make you seem insecure. And if the woman enjoys it, she may be the type of woman who regularly puts down others. Bad attitude and possible high maintenance.

 

[April_Infinite]

Sounds so easy, yet it's so hard with a pretty woman in your face.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Yes, you can do it!! Here is an example - you have the same convictions/values/religious beliefs!! BAM!!! Instant connection!!

 

[April_Infinite]

The problem is getting those out into conversation smoothly. You can't just spurt out "Hey, so are you into Christianity?" at the beginning of the date or whatever.

And this is my problem, I'm asking you guys what you guys do to make smooth conversation with women.

 

[backbreaker]

doing that pretty much puts the pulverable "I'm not getting any tonight" stamp on the date

 

[Boschy]

You can still make positive observations about people nearby. I started off making fun (which is easy), and this is still useful on people who obviously have no clue, but even then you can turn it around and chuck in a positive spin like, "But she's probably also a genius at playing violin or something."