how daft are girls? i mean, do they seriously believe that you just want to be their friend? do they really think it is more fun hanging out with them than with the guys? wake up girls! you're bugging me. sorry for the rant...
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
rant on girls as friends...
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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It always makes me laugh when girls think we want them for a friend. They fall for it every time! I have enough bro's w/out trieng to have girl "friends". Guys always get ideas about a girl unless their ghey or castrated. 
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YES. They do. I suppose it is preferable to a girl to have a mindset that everyone is friendly versus the reality that everyone wants to sleep with her.
Peace.
Girls are able to be friends with a guy and not want to have sex with them. In most cases, if a guy wants to "be friends" with a girl it's because he wants to have sex with her. Males and females are totally different in this way. So, no, girls aren't "daft", guys are just not being honest about their intentions. Since females don't think like males do, and are not mind readers, guys have to stop pretending to be friends when they really want to have sex with a girl.
You need to look at this from the position the girl is in. Since she is fully capable of having guy friends without having any sexual interest in them, she's not going to assume that you want aything more than friendship. Pretending to be a friend when you aren't really looking for friendship is basically lying. Don't do it. If you are interested in a girl, then act like it and don't get mad if you don't let her know you like her and she doesn't catch on. She really does have the ability to want to be your friend without wanting to have sex with you.
it's not bad at all to havea few female friends.
dont forget they havel ots of HB friends they can hook u up with.
plus if u get on their good side. she can talk or mention you to her friends that might intrigue them more. and make you instantly interesting in their eyes that they'd wanna meet u.
dont forget they havel ots of HB friends they can hook u up with.
plus if u get on their good side. she can talk or mention you to her friends that might intrigue them more. and make you instantly interesting in their eyes that they'd wanna meet u.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
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How come they always say ...
... I dated or married my best friend? Really?!! I find that extremely hard to believe. I have a lot of friends, some girls, but there's definitely a difference between gals I want to date and gals I want as friends. I've rarely -- if ever -- seen these "friendships" evolve into marriage.
Some gal got on this board last week saying she's dating her best friend.
B.S.
Look, if you're my best friend I doubt you'll put up with me yelling at the TV during the NCAA basketball tourney, while eating sh-t food, and calling up my other (real) friends to talk about the tourney and the hotties I saw at work today. My best friends do that, would you?
Hmm, I highly doubt it.
No, you're dating or you married a guy who lit a spark for you. He wasn't your best friend, he's a guy you grew to trust.
... I dated or married my best friend? Really?!! I find that extremely hard to believe. I have a lot of friends, some girls, but there's definitely a difference between gals I want to date and gals I want as friends. I've rarely -- if ever -- seen these "friendships" evolve into marriage.
Some gal got on this board last week saying she's dating her best friend.
B.S.
Look, if you're my best friend I doubt you'll put up with me yelling at the TV during the NCAA basketball tourney, while eating sh-t food, and calling up my other (real) friends to talk about the tourney and the hotties I saw at work today. My best friends do that, would you?
Hmm, I highly doubt it.
No, you're dating or you married a guy who lit a spark for you. He wasn't your best friend, he's a guy you grew to trust.
Re: How come they always say ...
Well, it can happen. But, you need a friendship on some level for a relationship to work. If your not best or at least good friends before a romantic relationship, then usually you end up being best friends as well as lovers. That's what I have observed from seeing heathy relationships.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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I would agree SDB ...
... I just don't see it happening, though I hear about it a lot.
Frankly, I would love to see a great friendship evolve into a love relationship, but with a little more spark.
I greatly enjoy deep friendships and I have a lot of them. I enjoy the trust, honesty, humor, and commitment of all of them.
It just appears there's a line in this country between friendship and romantic love.
... I just don't see it happening, though I hear about it a lot.
Frankly, I would love to see a great friendship evolve into a love relationship, but with a little more spark.
I greatly enjoy deep friendships and I have a lot of them. I enjoy the trust, honesty, humor, and commitment of all of them.
It just appears there's a line in this country between friendship and romantic love.
I suppose that is true for most guys, but us Nice Guys are a little different. I myself have been friends with plenty of women. There were some cases where I could have been more then friends, but that was back when I was going through a depression stage and was filled with self hatered.
Agree with Westcosaster...
Married to our best friend? Ridiculous!
You are married to your lover. Lovers and friends are two different animals.
I would not want to be married to my best friend... why would anybody want that? If you divorce, no more best friend......
Dietzcoi
Married to our best friend? Ridiculous!
You are married to your lover. Lovers and friends are two different animals.
I would not want to be married to my best friend... why would anybody want that? If you divorce, no more best friend......
Dietzcoi
It's not ridiculous at all. Women do develop feelings for men they have considered friends. It happens all the time. Just because guys like to only pretend you are their friend doesn't mean the woman is pretending. The woman just also happens to be attracted to the guy she was friends with and one of them let the other know they wanted more.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Actually, most women never even think about it. Christ, we aren't mind readers and what guys consider as being "obvious" signs of interest usually aren't even noticed by most girls and women. I was in my 30's before I realized that men who act like a friend to a woman probablly just wants to get in her pants. Guys have a tendency to misunderstand women mostly because they think women think the same way they do and that's just not the case most of the time. There are a few women who think like men, but most don't. We don't equate every male-female interaction we have in a sexual way like men tend to do. For instance, if we strike up a conversation with a guy we aren't thinking to ourselves about whether or not we'd like to have sex with him or wonder what he looks like naked. We aren't sizing up his crotch like men do with womens' breasts. The thinking is on an entirely different wavelength. If you try to figure out what a girl or woman is thinking or how she's seeing things the absolute worst way to do it is to view what she does through the eyes of a male. You'll get it all arse-backwards if you do that.
Bottom line...if you want to date a girl then don't lead her to believe you just want to be her pal. If you are interested in her then just tell her. If she's attracted to you and you tell her you are interested it's most likely going to incite her to at least consider looking at you in a sexual way. That's the big difference with women. We don't automatically look at every guy we meet and sort them into the "datable" and "undatable" categories like men typically do when they meet women. Someone usually has to put the idea in our heads and THEN we think about whether or not we'd be interested. If guys could just learn to understand this much about women it would save everyone loads of time, trouble and aggravation.