"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So I was at work today, a place I've only been working at for a few months. And a guy I've met a few times, big timer in the company, walks by me in the hall and says "How's it going, Jason?" I said fine.

The problem is, my name isn't Jason, my name is Justin. Not that I really care he didn't remember my name, but anytime someone forgets my name they always refer to me as Jason, never any other name.

Anyone else have a common experience like this?
 

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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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element0 said:
So I was at work today, a place I've only been working at for a few months. And a guy I've met a few times, big timer in the company, walks by me in the hall and says "How's it going, Jason?" I said fine.

The problem is, my name isn't Jason, my name is Justin. Not that I really care he didn't remember my name, but anytime someone forgets my name they always refer to me as Jason, never any other name.

Anyone else have a common experience like this?
Oh yeah. Some higher up used to call me Scott. Which isn't even close to my name.

I used to get a kick out of it actually and would go out of my way to engage him so that he would call me Scott for a laugh.

I was too embarrassed to correct him though.
 

vatoloco

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element0 said:
The problem is, my name isn't Jason, my name is Justin. Not that I really care he didn't remember my name, but anytime someone forgets my name they always refer to me as Jason, never any other name.
Do you tend to walk around with a hockey mask on? That could be the problem...

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