"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Random girl just POPS into my head for seemingly no reason

ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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No it's not oneitis. I don't talk to her, meet with her, have any mutual friends with her, or have anything to do with her. Yeah she's actually pretty damn hot, but she was one of the trainers I had for a period of 7 weeks so I'm not gonna make move. Thing is, it was months ago and honestly I didn't even think about her at all while doing the program. I still never even thought about her until recently like a few weeks ago. I'm not in love or infatuated with her (well I would bang, by so would all of you, women included :p) and it sure as hell isn't oneitis either, don't even go there. But like I'll be doing something random like on the computer or watching a video or driving or messaging someone, whatever. And then out of nowhere she'll pop into my mind even if I am extremely focused on the task I'm doing and it'd be kinda hard to get her out for a while, but then suddenly I'd just stop thinking about her. Then the next day the same thing happens. Kinda annoying, but I guess it's also pretty cool because it's never really happened before. Hoping some of you could shed some light on this? One thing that was worth noting was that she had very strong body language, and I noticed how it was in such a way as to subconsciously draw attention to her. I was only able to notice because I'm very aware of body language and why I feel certain ways;though as to why I think about her at random, I'm not quite sure. I honestly think it may have something to do with her body language. But why several months later do I think about her whereas before I never gave a crap?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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No it's not oneitis. I don't talk to her, meet with her, have any mutual friends with her, or have anything to do with her. Yeah she's actually pretty damn hot, but she was one of the trainers I had for a period of 7 weeks so I'm not gonna make move. Thing is, it was months ago and honestly I didn't even think about her at all while doing the program. I still never even thought about her until recently like a few weeks ago. I'm not in love or infatuated with her (well I would bang, by so would all of you, women included :p) and it sure as hell isn't oneitis either, don't even go there. But like I'll be doing something random like on the computer or watching a video or driving or messaging someone, whatever. And then out of nowhere she'll pop into my mind even if I am extremely focused on the task I'm doing and it'd be kinda hard to get her out for a while, but then suddenly I'd just stop thinking about her. Then the next day the same thing happens. Kinda annoying, but I guess it's also pretty cool because it's never really happened before. Hoping some of you could shed some light on this? One thing that was worth noting was that she had very strong body language, and I noticed how it was in such a way as to subconsciously draw attention to her. I was only able to notice because I'm very aware of body language and why I feel certain ways;though as to why I think about her at random, I'm not quite sure. I honestly think it may have something to do with her body language. But why several months later do I think about her whereas before I never gave a crap?
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It's probably related to her birthday being some multiple of 3 months away, and/or your own. For example, it's the midpoint of your birthdays, etc.
 

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It's probably related to her birthday being some multiple of 3 months away, and/or your own. For example, it's the midpoint of your birthdays, etc.

are you joking
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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