"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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LucidDreamer

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So it's early friday night and i'm at the gym & there are more girls than usual for a friday. I'm at one corner doing EZ curls and a transient/non-regular girl uses a machine next to my bench. i check her out and i casually notice she checks me out through the mirror. she does 3 sets at this machine, waits then sort of storms away, as if she expected me to say something to her but i didn't. is this a likely situation -- that she wanted me to go over there and talk to her -- or do you think i'm reading into it too much. BTW i am definitely one of the stronger fellows at the gym w/ a more complete physique.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You're reading into it to much. For all you know, she may have been thinking 'let me get out of here before he walks over'. Know what I mean?
 

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once a girl -- pretty, blonde hair -- stopped by the squat rack and said "you know i see you hear all the time and i just wanted to say i really admire your dedication and blah blah" ... i wish all girls were this obvious at the gym. i took her out a couple times...nothing transpired, she was kinda boring.
 

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"you know i see you hear all the time and i just wanted to say i really admire your dedication

My response: You're not following me around the gym are you?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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A good way to observe a girl s interest in a gym setting is proximity. If you notice the same girl happens to be working out at a station right next to you or get the sense that she is following you around, chances are is that she thinks you are hot and wants you to make a move. This happened to me last week. I noticed this chick would choose a workout station next to me and got the sense that she was following me. I then smiled at her she responded positively and I ended up getting her number which she gave without hesitation.
 

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you should've said something, anything is better than just eye contact. EC's are useless.

hi, what's youre name..............blah blah.
 

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Smile and speak as if you're merely being polite and don't really expect anything from her - be casual. Make a big deal out of it and come on too strong or get too tense/self-conscious and you are most likely headed south. If she shows signs of interest by being responsive - smiling and maintaining eye contact - you might well be on your way. She knows what you're up to - believe me - and she'll know fairly quickly if she's interested in 'buying'. In a gym, I'd keep it to 5 minutes or so. Much longer will make you seem too eager or desperate. I've seen guys in my gym 'hang' on a girl far too long and blow it.

I've learned a lot about women from my ex's and their girlfriends. Per one of the responses earlier in the thread, I've literally heard some of my ex's girls talk about the guys they tried to get to talk to them in the gym but who wouldn't. Seems the like the guys who do usually aren't the ones they want, and vice-versa. Go figure.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dude even I'm pissed at you for not approaching. You know they don't give written invitations anymore right?
 
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