"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Raise her self esteem

gmillar

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Basically, how do I raise her self esteem, without seeming like an AFC ass-kisser?

Thanks
-Gavin
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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08aisaac

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Wow this is a tough one. Well first why do you need to raise her self esteem?

Basically the best way to raise a chicks self esteem, is to show interest in her.

Of course it depends on the girl.
 

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Do you really want to raise her self esteem?

Just make her feel good about you, not herself.
 

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Well first why do you need to raise her self esteem?
Because it's low...

Do you really want to raise her self esteem?
Good point, I hadn't really thought about that. I guess it all stems from the fact that I really don't buy into all this psychological manipulation. I respect my girl, and while I'm not whipped or a pvssy, I don't want to be a womanizing prick either. I want more than just some hot piece of ass. So, when she's feeling down on herself (which I don't get, she's really smart and beautiful), I want to make her feel better, without sacrificing my manhood in the process.
 

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You're 16, are you really looking for a LTR?

You aren't manipulating her if shes already got low self-esteem, infact, you would be manipulating her if you tried to raise it.

Don't bring her lower, but don't raise her up.

Although in some cases, it may be a good idea to raise their self esteem a bit, but in this situation I'd say no.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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