Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Raise her self esteem

gmillar

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Basically, how do I raise her self esteem, without seeming like an AFC ass-kisser?

Thanks
-Gavin
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Wow this is a tough one. Well first why do you need to raise her self esteem?

Basically the best way to raise a chicks self esteem, is to show interest in her.

Of course it depends on the girl.
 

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Do you really want to raise her self esteem?

Just make her feel good about you, not herself.
 

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Well first why do you need to raise her self esteem?
Because it's low...

Do you really want to raise her self esteem?
Good point, I hadn't really thought about that. I guess it all stems from the fact that I really don't buy into all this psychological manipulation. I respect my girl, and while I'm not whipped or a pvssy, I don't want to be a womanizing prick either. I want more than just some hot piece of ass. So, when she's feeling down on herself (which I don't get, she's really smart and beautiful), I want to make her feel better, without sacrificing my manhood in the process.
 

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You're 16, are you really looking for a LTR?

You aren't manipulating her if shes already got low self-esteem, infact, you would be manipulating her if you tried to raise it.

Don't bring her lower, but don't raise her up.

Although in some cases, it may be a good idea to raise their self esteem a bit, but in this situation I'd say no.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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