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Kailex

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Anyone willing to bet that Eric is now the "main man" in that chic's life? I don't know, but that thought randomly popped into my head.

Of course, WE all know that she definitely WASN'T meeting up with Eric to tell him that she couldn't go through with it anymore.

But this Eric person HAD to have known that she was living with someone else, right?

Wonder if Eric turned her down now that she's "free".
 

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Wow can girls lie. As someone who grew up priding himself in his honesty, I'm continually amazed. How casually they'll cheat, deny it to the grave, and paint you out as the world's biggest a-hole for even suggesting the possibility.
Give this a read--it explains half of why women are like you describe:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=1607877#post1607877

The other half is that society lets them get away with it, which my earlier post in this thread explains what we as men need to do to put a stop to it.

Furthermore:

http://elusivewapiti.blogspot.com/2010/02/conservative-womens-attitudes-are-issue.html

Watters conveniently misses the fact that women also need incentives to commit to one man for life, and those incentives have all but disappeared in today's culture, a culture that enables, even encourages serial polyandry, a culture that extends in a lesser but still substantial degree to the Church. Don't believe me? Ask yourself this: when was the last time a Body expelled a woman, particularly a choice mommy, for divorcing her perfectly good beta or delta husband?

Exactly.
 
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Her fight-or-flight response is to CRY and to call everyone else MEAN and that she hates them.
which is exactly what my 8 year old daughter tries to do when I hold her responsible. Of course we don't allow that crying and name calling to adults in my house. My cousin's teenage daughters do this all the time when they get caught doing something they aren't suppose to do. They cry, blame, shame, name call and slam doors...anything to get sympathy and get the blame off of them and on to the other person.
 

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I was about to question this, but then I realize the key difference. A woman trashing a man's things is an act of rank immaturity and blind retribution. A man getting the information out publicly - the facts - and then dumping her is MORE than fair. He didn't slash her tires, he didn't beat up the other guy, heck, he didn't (we don't know anyway) post her naked pictures online. He sounded fairly restrained, even when he said "screw you." The only thing she really lost was a boyfriend and the expectation that she was set for life. She probably doesn't even have the shame to admit she was wrong and will blame it on him, anyway.
What he did was absolutely *fair* - if you are talking about an eye for an eye.

No one is disputing that.

But is what he did *classy*? Would a man of class and sophistication do what he just did?

Would James Bond do that? James Bond would be rough with the girl and tell her off, but I highly doubt he would deliberately set it up so that he could shame her at a party, he's got bigger fish to fry than to indulge in some petty revenge.

Warrior74 said:
which is exactly what my 8 year old daughter tries to do when I hold her responsible. Of course we don't allow that crying and name calling to adults in my house. My cousin's teenage daughters do this all the time when they get caught doing something they aren't suppose to do. They cry, blame, shame, name call and slam doors...anything to get sympathy and get the blame off of them and on to the other person.
Yes, at the end of the day, women are just little girls.

But you cannot use that to justify Eric's public shaming of his gf. There are a different set of expectations for guys and girls. Men are adults, girls are children.

As an adult, you do not expect your 8 year-old daughter to be responsible. You are not in any way surprised when she throws off tears to deflect responsibility. She's just a girl.
 

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Trader said:
Dude, none of us feel bad for her. We don't care about her. The situation is not about her, it's about how a real man handles his business.



Yes, have the courage to end it, yes end it emphatically, but do it IN PRIVATE. What part of this is confusing to you? You don't air your dirty laundry out in public on some radio show. This is not junior high.

Why shouldn't he have made it public? This girl was seen in "public" making out with her so called guy friend. Why didn't she cheat privately? Do you see the point? There is no set ettiquite for cheating just like there isn't for the consequences of it.

I feel that without breaking the law he really could have handled the situation any way he wanted to. I happen to think the way he did was both innovative and exclamatory. Like I said I think this girl learned a hard lesson and will think about 5 times before she cheats again on someone.

I have absolutely no pity for this woman what so ever. Yes some guys could have been cool about it and made the break up non-chalant.... but when you spend 3 years (living together none the less) with someone and she cheats on you as you were planning a proposal.... well the gloves are off in my opinion

A classless woman doesn't deserve a classy break up.
 

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Jayer said:
Why shouldn't he have made it public? This girl was seen in "public" making out with her so called guy friend. Why didn't she cheat privately? Do you see the point? There is no set ettiquite for cheating just like there isn't for the consequences of it.

I feel that without breaking the law he really could have handled the situation any way he wanted to. I happen to think the way he did was both innovative and exclamatory. Like I said I think this girl learned a hard lesson and will think about 5 times before she cheats again on someone.

I have absolutely no pity for this woman what so ever. Yes some guys could have been cool about it and made the break up non-chalant.... but when you spend 3 years (living together none the less) with someone and she cheats on you as you were planning a proposal.... well the gloves are off in my opinion

A classless woman doesn't deserve a classy break up.

You never know how you will react until it is you this sort of thing is happening to. I concur with you all gloves are off.

Besides, what if he spent a ton of loot on her ring. There are some guys that will drop 10k on that princess. He could have taken out a second mortgage on his castle. Not to mention she ripped his heart out and was cheating on my man in public and one of his boys saw it!!! That alone could be rough on the ego!

Trader, I believe mentioned James Bond. Bond is Fleming's fictional character and this is real life. Sometimes, when you wrestle with a pig, you just get messy, but in this case he got messy but loved the mess. I am not saying do it because it is fun, but he did what he felt necessary.

Sure if this Chris guy was not set on spending his life with a "soul mate", or so he thought, he would of and probably would have just privately next her. But to simply just let her walk away in private would suggest the man has no emotions. Men have emotions and as Jayer suggested, he broke no laws.

Rollo, this is a hot topic man and would have loved to see how the poll turned out. How can you bring such a great discussion up and not want to see what we think?

Still I like this discussion as the mature section gets stale at times.
 

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I think this girl learned a hard lesson and will think about 5 times before she cheats again on someone.

I highly doubt she even learned her lesson. Remember the saying "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"? Lets also not forget that women are hypocrites beyond belief and are ruthlessly spiteful.
 

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I think this girl learned a hard lesson and will think about 5 times before she cheats again on someone.

I highly doubt she even learned her lesson. Remember the saying "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"? Lets also not forget that women are hypocrites beyond belief and are ruthlessly spiteful.
Yep.

She might be gun-shy in the future about cheating, but I guarantee you she will take this whole experience and use it as a rationalization for her behavior and run into the arms of her other guy. Expecting a woman to be accountable is like expecting a snake not to bite you. It's what they do.
 

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I highly doubt she even learned her lesson.
I doubt if she learned anything either... at least not from the standpoint of changing her behavior. It takes an introspection and humility to learn lessons and change behavior accordingly. I highly doubt this broad has heard of either concept.
 

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Kailex said:
Anyone willing to bet that Eric is now the "main man" in that chic's life? I don't know, but that thought randomly popped into my head.

Of course, WE all know that she definitely WASN'T meeting up with Eric to tell him that she couldn't go through with it anymore.

But this Eric person HAD to have known that she was living with someone else, right?

Wonder if Eric turned her down now that she's "free".

I can almost guarantee you that Eric will also kick her to the curb after he taps that a55 few more times. That's when the consequences of this chick's actions will really start to hit home. Right now she isn't feeling the full sting of this breakup because she thinks she has a branch available to swing on.
 

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grinder said:
H.S Forum.
Thank you!

What matters is that actions that you take that are going to make you a better person (a better man). The steps that you make to cut a cancer out of your life might just make you grow another one in the process.

Now I'm not saying the guy is going to be worse off. Just from my personal experience....anytime I've seen a man do something similar...it doesn't seem healthy.
 

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Blue Phoenix said:
How would James Bond have reacted to this situation??????
dude he's a 27 year old virgin, what do you expect?
 
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