Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
Therein lies the rub. There will always exist an element of bias (revenge) whenever one enacts what they perceive as justice. Women are almost universally absolved of this. Carrie Underwood can write a chart topping song about vandalizing the truck of a cheating lover that women (and men) will gleefully cheer along with, but let a man publicly humiliate a cheating lover and "he's less of a man" and runs the risk of having his personal life ruined as a result.Victory Unlimited said:"Is justice somehow rendered as "less than justice" when it is administered by your OWN HAND?"
As far as this guy breaking Iron Rule #4; yes, the guy's a fool for having done so for 3 years, and I'd go so far as to say an even bigger fool for being monogamous with a solitary woman for 5 years during his prime (I assume Chris was in his 20's). My point was to illustrate his degree of commitment (he bought a ring) not to justify his having lived with her as long as he did. In the Tiger Woods thread a lot had been made about commitment being tantamount to male virtue, so my emphasis was his readiness to commit and the gravity it bears on a man's life.
There was another aspect that I hadn't considered in this. I don't entirely believe that reversing the roles to understand a contrast would be applicable in this case. Generally women don't ask men to marry them. I understand it happens, but never to the degree that a man must prepare to make a proposal of marriage. Chris had resolved in his mind to marry the girl, and acted on this resolve by buying a ring and planning to propose on V-Day. Women simply do not have a parallel experience for this.
I understand this is a bit of a stretch, but for a moment lets assume Chris knew exactly the future liabilities of his commitment - all of those high-road, morally binding liabilities Tiger reneged on in his marriage - should his response to her deception be any less measured than what he did when you think of what he'd almost committed to?
Think of the impact his commitment to her would've entailed; think of how it would effect their families, his career and / or educational opportunities, their future children and their personal decisions, his finances, his psychological well being, their quality of life, and the list goes on, but essentially he was betting his future life on this girl. The guy was a hair's breadth from making that commitment when he discovered the deception. I think she got off rather lightly.