"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I have often wondered alot about this.

I come from Britain, its very muli culturl and in the DJ field it can be an interesting challenge to come across a woman who has a different cultural background.

Yes, somebody who is not native to our country but lives here will have lived in a different society for some or most of their lives and this can affect the person they are.

Differences in socities

I have studied Sociology before and have learned some very interesting things.

In Spain people are more open kinaestetically for example.

Some Latino women have been proven to hold eye contact for 2 - 3 seconds longer than other cultures.

This CAN lead to certain missinterpretations on our part.
By "our part" i mean Britons, heck, even Americans as our cultures have some similarities.

I just wanted to embolden this idea and i'm sure some of you will know much more about this than i do.

I only ask because unless you are very very poor you will have been to another country and possibly DJ'ed there.

So the question i pose is

What do you know about other customs in regards to the DJ'ing?

with regards Ianlove
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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unless you are very very poor you will have been to another country and possibly DJ'ed there.
:rolleyes: guess I'm poor then...
 

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I've learned the most when visiting Italy. The culture screams of male machismo and female femininity. There little if any pretense or BS when either sex spots an interesting pray.

Three second rule; it's a given. Eye contact is a must. Kino goes without question. Charisma is the lifeblood of every man there. You'd think that there are Alphas stalking the streets and you're right, it makes you pick up your game.

The cool thing is that they recognize men of similar caliber and it is fvcking magic when sarging in a pack of competent DJs. This may not be quite the answer to the question posed; but I have to say that unless your get out of your own back yard, you'll never understand the ways of the world.
 

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nice answer man

I was just curious about other places.

Don't worry Blatant Truth, you can always go to wales lol
Depending on your location though:

Wales- England
canada- USA lol
 

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I don't think it matters. Unless you're a diplomat or business traveller, you can just act like yourself (assuming its not your native culture to be an a$$hole), and the girls of that country will know you're a foreigner anyway.

Theres no point learning about all 300 cultures of the world just so you can get laid easier.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
I don't think it matters. Unless you're a diplomat or business traveller, you can just act like yourself (assuming its not your native culture to be an a$$hole), and the girls of that country will know you're a foreigner anyway.

Theres no point learning about all 300 cultures of the world just so you can get laid easier.
Trust me, it's different across the pond. In the states, a man elicits his value by what he can produce. A man that is a good provider tops many women's lists over here.

On the other hand, outside the United States it's more about the man himself; his intrinsic value. Any guy can make a ton of money and have a kick @ss car or a killer flat; it's the unique charisma of the guy that lures them.

D@mn, I need to get back over there...
 

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i wasn't on about learning 300 whatever.

I was just bringing up an interesting note
 

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Trust me, it's different across the pond. In the states, a man elicits his value by what he can produce. A man that is a good provider tops many women's lists over here.

On the other hand, outside the United States it's more about the man himself; his intrinsic value. Any guy can make a ton of money and have a kick @ss car or a killer flat; it's the unique charisma of the guy that lures them.
Where's "there"? I actually found in a lot of countries (especially poorer ones) a man's wealth is far more important than anything else, simply because the women are too poor to have the luxury of liking a man's "personality". Unless you're referring to ultra-rich countries like Switzerland and France.
 

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I went on a little European vacation last christmas and boy was I in for a shock.

I went to germany, Paris and the Chech Republic..


Nothing like it is over here.

First of all, it's alot more laid back across the pond. time really isn't as important as it is over here. things start later, finish earlier...

The food is soo much better

The women, act like WOMEN. going to euprope did more for my DJ skills than anything else I have ever done, ,becasue you see how it's supposed to be, and when you act like it's supposed to over here, and the girl is acting like a "princess", you know that shes the one that ****ed up, not you.

i was in paris for New Years, nothing like it... Cold as ****, but nothing like it.
 

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Originally posted by ianlove
I have often wondered alot about this.

I come from Britain, its very muli culturl and in the DJ field it can be an interesting challenge to come across a woman who has a different cultural background.

Yes, somebody who is not native to our country but lives here will have lived in a different society for some or most of their lives and this can affect the person they are.

Differences in socities

I have studied Sociology before and have learned some very interesting things.

In Spain people are more open kinaestetically for example.

Some Latino women have been proven to hold eye contact for 2 - 3 seconds longer than other cultures.

This CAN lead to certain missinterpretations on our part.
By "our part" i mean Britons, heck, even Americans as our cultures have some similarities.

I just wanted to embolden this idea and i'm sure some of you will know much more about this than i do.

I only ask because unless you are very very poor you will have been to another country and possibly DJ'ed there.

So the question i pose is

What do you know about other customs in regards to the DJ'ing?

with regards Ianlove
Again, like I just posted in some other guy's post-it doesnt matter! If you like it try it! For Christ's Sake man!


"Turn Fear Into Curiosity"
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
Where's "there"? I actually found in a lot of countries (especially poorer ones) a man's wealth is far more important than anything else, simply because the women are too poor to have the luxury of liking a man's "personality". Unless you're referring to ultra-rich countries like Switzerland and France.
Don't forget Italy... ;)
 

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wo wo wo Freeman

I apologise dude for being TOTALLY UNAWARE of the fact you posted "it doesn't matter" somewhere else.

"Who's leg do you have to hump to get a dry martini around her anyways?"
- Brian, Famil Guy
 

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In sex, i often think american women see too many porn flicks and think that having sex should be like a porn movie, me being Mexican i am always told by american woman that i am very "passionate", simply because i like to touch, massage, hold, and kiss a woman all over during sex, for me its natural, but it seems americans don't do that as much as we do.

Off course, women love a passionate man in bed.
 

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i have an equal opputunity dicc. i dont dicriminate unless shes fat
 

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Originally posted by salsipuedes
In sex, i often think american women see too many porn flicks and think that having sex should be like a porn movie, me being Mexican i am always told by american woman that i am very "passionate", simply because i like to touch, massage, hold, and kiss a woman all over during sex, for me its natural, but it seems americans don't do that as much as we do.

Off course, women love a passionate man in bed.
It's not the porn (few watch it); it's the lack of good sex and/or limiting personal hang ups about sex. A woman with self confidence and is truly passionate about sex (without the hangups) is truly a wonderful sight to behold (especially from behind :p)!

"Smack it up, flip it, rub it down...." - B.B.V.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I think this is really perception. I think when it comes down to it, regardless of where you are women still respond to the proper manly behaviors.

Yes, AFCs with external stuture do better in some cultures, but when it comes down to making her wet, this does not vary much.
 

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Originally posted by ianlove
I have often wondered alot about this.

I have studied Sociology before and have learned some very interesting things.

In Spain people are more open kinaestetically for example.

Some Latino women have been proven to hold eye contact for 2 - 3 seconds longer than other cultures.

This CAN lead to certain missinterpretations on our part.
By "our part" i mean Britons, heck, even Americans as our cultures have some similarities.

I just wanted to embolden this idea and i'm sure some of you will know much more about this than i do.

I only ask because unless you are very very poor you will have been to another country and possibly DJ'ed there.

So the question i pose is

What do you know about other customs in regards to the DJ'ing?

with regards Ianlove
In Spain people are more open kinaestetically for example.

What do you mean whith that "kinaestetically"... do you mean kino is useless in mediterranean countries?? please explain it...
 
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