"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I have often wondered alot about this.

I come from Britain, its very muli culturl and in the DJ field it can be an interesting challenge to come across a woman who has a different cultural background.

Yes, somebody who is not native to our country but lives here will have lived in a different society for some or most of their lives and this can affect the person they are.

Differences in socities

I have studied Sociology before and have learned some very interesting things.

In Spain people are more open kinaestetically for example.

Some Latino women have been proven to hold eye contact for 2 - 3 seconds longer than other cultures.

This CAN lead to certain missinterpretations on our part.
By "our part" i mean Britons, heck, even Americans as our cultures have some similarities.

I just wanted to embolden this idea and i'm sure some of you will know much more about this than i do.

I only ask because unless you are very very poor you will have been to another country and possibly DJ'ed there.

So the question i pose is

What do you know about other customs in regards to the DJ'ing?

with regards Ianlove
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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unless you are very very poor you will have been to another country and possibly DJ'ed there.
:rolleyes: guess I'm poor then...
 

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I've learned the most when visiting Italy. The culture screams of male machismo and female femininity. There little if any pretense or BS when either sex spots an interesting pray.

Three second rule; it's a given. Eye contact is a must. Kino goes without question. Charisma is the lifeblood of every man there. You'd think that there are Alphas stalking the streets and you're right, it makes you pick up your game.

The cool thing is that they recognize men of similar caliber and it is fvcking magic when sarging in a pack of competent DJs. This may not be quite the answer to the question posed; but I have to say that unless your get out of your own back yard, you'll never understand the ways of the world.
 

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nice answer man

I was just curious about other places.

Don't worry Blatant Truth, you can always go to wales lol
Depending on your location though:

Wales- England
canada- USA lol
 

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I don't think it matters. Unless you're a diplomat or business traveller, you can just act like yourself (assuming its not your native culture to be an a$$hole), and the girls of that country will know you're a foreigner anyway.

Theres no point learning about all 300 cultures of the world just so you can get laid easier.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
I don't think it matters. Unless you're a diplomat or business traveller, you can just act like yourself (assuming its not your native culture to be an a$$hole), and the girls of that country will know you're a foreigner anyway.

Theres no point learning about all 300 cultures of the world just so you can get laid easier.
Trust me, it's different across the pond. In the states, a man elicits his value by what he can produce. A man that is a good provider tops many women's lists over here.

On the other hand, outside the United States it's more about the man himself; his intrinsic value. Any guy can make a ton of money and have a kick @ss car or a killer flat; it's the unique charisma of the guy that lures them.

D@mn, I need to get back over there...
 

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i wasn't on about learning 300 whatever.

I was just bringing up an interesting note
 

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Trust me, it's different across the pond. In the states, a man elicits his value by what he can produce. A man that is a good provider tops many women's lists over here.

On the other hand, outside the United States it's more about the man himself; his intrinsic value. Any guy can make a ton of money and have a kick @ss car or a killer flat; it's the unique charisma of the guy that lures them.
Where's "there"? I actually found in a lot of countries (especially poorer ones) a man's wealth is far more important than anything else, simply because the women are too poor to have the luxury of liking a man's "personality". Unless you're referring to ultra-rich countries like Switzerland and France.
 

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I went on a little European vacation last christmas and boy was I in for a shock.

I went to germany, Paris and the Chech Republic..


Nothing like it is over here.

First of all, it's alot more laid back across the pond. time really isn't as important as it is over here. things start later, finish earlier...

The food is soo much better

The women, act like WOMEN. going to euprope did more for my DJ skills than anything else I have ever done, ,becasue you see how it's supposed to be, and when you act like it's supposed to over here, and the girl is acting like a "princess", you know that shes the one that ****ed up, not you.

i was in paris for New Years, nothing like it... Cold as ****, but nothing like it.
 

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Originally posted by ianlove
I have often wondered alot about this.

I come from Britain, its very muli culturl and in the DJ field it can be an interesting challenge to come across a woman who has a different cultural background.

Yes, somebody who is not native to our country but lives here will have lived in a different society for some or most of their lives and this can affect the person they are.

Differences in socities

I have studied Sociology before and have learned some very interesting things.

In Spain people are more open kinaestetically for example.

Some Latino women have been proven to hold eye contact for 2 - 3 seconds longer than other cultures.

This CAN lead to certain missinterpretations on our part.
By "our part" i mean Britons, heck, even Americans as our cultures have some similarities.

I just wanted to embolden this idea and i'm sure some of you will know much more about this than i do.

I only ask because unless you are very very poor you will have been to another country and possibly DJ'ed there.

So the question i pose is

What do you know about other customs in regards to the DJ'ing?

with regards Ianlove
Again, like I just posted in some other guy's post-it doesnt matter! If you like it try it! For Christ's Sake man!


"Turn Fear Into Curiosity"
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
Where's "there"? I actually found in a lot of countries (especially poorer ones) a man's wealth is far more important than anything else, simply because the women are too poor to have the luxury of liking a man's "personality". Unless you're referring to ultra-rich countries like Switzerland and France.
Don't forget Italy... ;)
 

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wo wo wo Freeman

I apologise dude for being TOTALLY UNAWARE of the fact you posted "it doesn't matter" somewhere else.

"Who's leg do you have to hump to get a dry martini around her anyways?"
- Brian, Famil Guy
 

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In sex, i often think american women see too many porn flicks and think that having sex should be like a porn movie, me being Mexican i am always told by american woman that i am very "passionate", simply because i like to touch, massage, hold, and kiss a woman all over during sex, for me its natural, but it seems americans don't do that as much as we do.

Off course, women love a passionate man in bed.
 

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i have an equal opputunity dicc. i dont dicriminate unless shes fat
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by salsipuedes
In sex, i often think american women see too many porn flicks and think that having sex should be like a porn movie, me being Mexican i am always told by american woman that i am very "passionate", simply because i like to touch, massage, hold, and kiss a woman all over during sex, for me its natural, but it seems americans don't do that as much as we do.

Off course, women love a passionate man in bed.
It's not the porn (few watch it); it's the lack of good sex and/or limiting personal hang ups about sex. A woman with self confidence and is truly passionate about sex (without the hangups) is truly a wonderful sight to behold (especially from behind :p)!

"Smack it up, flip it, rub it down...." - B.B.V.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I think this is really perception. I think when it comes down to it, regardless of where you are women still respond to the proper manly behaviors.

Yes, AFCs with external stuture do better in some cultures, but when it comes down to making her wet, this does not vary much.
 

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Originally posted by ianlove
I have often wondered alot about this.

I have studied Sociology before and have learned some very interesting things.

In Spain people are more open kinaestetically for example.

Some Latino women have been proven to hold eye contact for 2 - 3 seconds longer than other cultures.

This CAN lead to certain missinterpretations on our part.
By "our part" i mean Britons, heck, even Americans as our cultures have some similarities.

I just wanted to embolden this idea and i'm sure some of you will know much more about this than i do.

I only ask because unless you are very very poor you will have been to another country and possibly DJ'ed there.

So the question i pose is

What do you know about other customs in regards to the DJ'ing?

with regards Ianlove
In Spain people are more open kinaestetically for example.

What do you mean whith that "kinaestetically"... do you mean kino is useless in mediterranean countries?? please explain it...
 
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