You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Yep, he definitely was a great guy. Met him (and got his autograph) at two cons in the 80s and you can tell that he's one of the few cast members who truly enjoys meeting the fans at cons.Originally posted by Paradox
Wow. Thanks for posting that. I heard he was a really great guy. He lived a full life. He was 85 when he passed.
I have to add that alot of NASA Engineers say that they got into engineering because of him/his TV character.
waw, I have trouble admiting that I even watch Start Treck, And here he goes and tells us he goes to conventions. Do you dress up too?Originally posted by Yotsuya-san
Met him (and got his autograph) at two cons in the 80s and you can tell that he's one of the few cast members who truly
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
why do you have trouble admitting you like star trek? Captain Kirk is one of my heroes. Always in control of his situation taking care of his crew.Originally posted by spider_007
waw, I have trouble admiting that I even watch Start Treck, And here he goes and tells us he goes to conventions. Do you dress up too?