"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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dannowillbookem

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and christ jesus i wanna kill someone

my last cigarettes where...night before last? yeah. and those were the first ones i had in about two days. oh jesus im sweating and shiit. ahhhh
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I quit like 80 times, none successfull
 

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how long did you go before you fell back in it? if i made it a week without a cig, would i be free?
 

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Hey man, you can be free now if oyu want, mind over matter, eat and drink healthy, you bum.
 

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If you rely on mind over matter or will power you'll never succeed. Habits a seldom effectivly broken, only replaced.

Just something to think about.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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WHY ARE YOU QUITTING SMOKING YOU MORON!!!! Didn't you know cigarettes improve lung capacity! Raise sex appeal! Decrease the Risk of Cancer! And help you live a longer fuller LIFE!!! What I'm saying is absolutely true.
 

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Create Reality said:
WHY ARE YOU QUITTING SMOKING YOU MORON!!!! Didn't you know cigarettes improve lung capacity! Raise sex appeal! Decrease the Risk of Cancer! And help you live a longer fuller LIFE!!! What I'm saying is absolutely true.
LOL That better be satire in relation to PUA ****.
 

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If you want to quit, let yourself smoke all you want ... of the most disgusting cigarettes you can find. Menthol cigars worked for me. Soon your brain will associate nicotine with unhappiness instead of pleasure.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
If you want to quit, let yourself smoke all you want ... of the most disgusting cigarettes you can find. Menthol cigars worked for me. Soon your brain will associate nicotine with unhappiness instead of pleasure.
haha thats genius. but i think i have strong will power when it comes to NOT doing something... getting out of bed is a different story. anyways the insanity of earlier wore off...but is it gonna be back tommorow? i cant believe i would just have to survive a day and a half of madness to quit.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
If you want to quit, let yourself smoke all you want ... of the most disgusting cigarettes you can find. Menthol cigars worked for me. Soon your brain will associate nicotine with unhappiness instead of pleasure.
Not everyone is addicted to the taste, there are those who have an oral compulsion.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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well i want one now but not in the heroinesque withdraw way that i wanted one yesterday. i hope the worst is past, and i hope i dont get fuccked up and decide to have one. that broke me last time.
 

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The only way you will sucessfully quit is if you want to.
If you quit because you think you have too, but still enjoy it you'l soon fail as i found out many times.
It wasnt till i felt ill, and knew it was killing me i didnt want to do it anymore it wasn't enjoyable.
I havent looked back yet, after 6 months but its still slightly hard.
 

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chronic99uk said:
The only way you will sucessfully quit is if you want to.
If you quit because you think you have too, but still enjoy it you'l soon fail as i found out many times.
It wasnt till i felt ill, and knew it was killing me i didnt want to do it anymore it wasn't enjoyable.
I havent looked back yet, after 6 months but its still slightly hard.
man. i do enjoy it and miss it. idk, i'm reforming myself, going to the gym quitting smoking etc, but it just doesnt feel like me, you dig? idk i was always a led zepplin play guitar smoke cigarettes get drunk tonight kinda kid...its just weird i guess.
 

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If you want to quit, let yourself smoke all you want ... of the most disgusting cigarettes you can find. Menthol cigars worked for me. Soon your brain will associate nicotine with unhappiness instead of pleasure.
I tried that and it didn't work for me. I smoked those really cheap cigarettes that taste like ass and do a number on your lungs. I decided enough was enough and went back to smoking my regular brand.

I read "Allen Carr's Easyway to Stop Smoking" and I've been smoke free for almost 4 months now. The only day that really sucked was the first day after quitting. After that, it just got easier and easier.

I went through a few "replacement" phases. First, it was breathmints. Then, it was potato chips. Those habits require willpower to quit. A drug addiction requires endurance.

For danno, I'm gonna give you a bit of what Allen Carr talked about... Smoking is a chain reaction. The last cigarette you smoked is making you crave another one. You have to break that goddam chain and NEVER smoke again!

Trust me, it gets better. Give it a month before it gets tolerable. Two months, and you'll be fine.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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dannowillbookem said:
man. i do enjoy it and miss it. idk, i'm reforming myself, going to the gym quitting smoking etc, but it just doesnt feel like me, you dig? idk i was always a led zepplin play guitar smoke cigarettes get drunk tonight kinda kid...its just weird i guess.

Its very diffucult, although i dont buy cigs anymore or smoke any per day i live with people who smoke infront of me all the time, and i get alot of second hand smoke and it taste good. I want to go back and i think im soon to fail again.

The first week is the hardest, it does get easier, very much like DJ'ing.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
Toothpicks helped my dad quit.
This is a good example of replacement therapy. Your dad just enjoyed having something in his mouth. For some people it's candy or gum, for others its a non food stuff like a toothpick or a pen.
 

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Desdinova said:
I tried that and it didn't work for me. I smoked those really cheap cigarettes that taste like ass and do a number on your lungs. I decided enough was enough and went back to smoking my regular brand.

I read "Allen Carr's Easyway to Stop Smoking" and I've been smoke free for almost 4 months now. The only day that really sucked was the first day after quitting. After that, it just got easier and easier.

I went through a few "replacement" phases. First, it was breathmints. Then, it was potato chips. Those habits require willpower to quit. A drug addiction requires endurance.

For danno, I'm gonna give you a bit of what Allen Carr talked about... Smoking is a chain reaction. The last cigarette you smoked is making you crave another one. You have to break that goddam chain and NEVER smoke again!

Trust me, it gets better. Give it a month before it gets tolerable. Two months, and you'll be fine.
bump. I read the book too. Now I'm almost 4 month smoke free after 10 years of smoking. Never will I touch a cigarette again.

The beginning is the most difficult time because your brain has been associating the cigarette with events/feelings: stress, boredom, excitement, relaxation, socializing,...

I certainly advise everybody that wants to quit smoking to read Alen Carr's book.
Without going too much in to details: the basics of the books is to make you think about why you are smoking. Stop thinking: you have to stop thinking about the evident disadvantages and start think about what you think are the advantages of smoking.

You need the find the reasons of why you smoke, you have to objectively think about why you light a cigarette everytime you do it. Smoke the cigarette, and think about why you are doing it. The book gives you explanations about why you are doing it. Once you understand this, it's easy to quit.

This is an example:
I used to smoke a lot when going to clubs. When I start to think about, I noticed that I smoked when I felt boredom.
1. There's nothing interesting about a cigarette.
2. After the cigarette you're still bored, so you light another one.
3. The cigarette is an attack at your confidence. Nothing less confident than a man sitting bored on a chair in a club with a cigarette.

So you have to de-learn the patterns that you have learned during your time smoking. Cigarettes are drugs.

Succes!
 

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It's all about breaking chains

like newbie said, I started smoking too to fill in those gaps of boredom.....a 10 minute break at a waiter job, time to kill before going to class, a long drive to work. But I feel the best way to get anything off of your mind is to think about the things you want in life that you're working for. For me it's a healthy body at age 40, to afford my own place in the next 3 months, manage school, work, and social life. These things have nothing to do with smoking so when I think about them I don't get cravings to smoke.

Chewing gum helps but don't rely on it totally, deep breathing exercises are the way to go in my opinion, this way you can get a feel for what cigs really do to you.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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