"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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dannowillbookem

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and christ jesus i wanna kill someone

my last cigarettes where...night before last? yeah. and those were the first ones i had in about two days. oh jesus im sweating and shiit. ahhhh
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I quit like 80 times, none successfull
 

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how long did you go before you fell back in it? if i made it a week without a cig, would i be free?
 

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Hey man, you can be free now if oyu want, mind over matter, eat and drink healthy, you bum.
 

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If you rely on mind over matter or will power you'll never succeed. Habits a seldom effectivly broken, only replaced.

Just something to think about.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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WHY ARE YOU QUITTING SMOKING YOU MORON!!!! Didn't you know cigarettes improve lung capacity! Raise sex appeal! Decrease the Risk of Cancer! And help you live a longer fuller LIFE!!! What I'm saying is absolutely true.
 

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Create Reality said:
WHY ARE YOU QUITTING SMOKING YOU MORON!!!! Didn't you know cigarettes improve lung capacity! Raise sex appeal! Decrease the Risk of Cancer! And help you live a longer fuller LIFE!!! What I'm saying is absolutely true.
LOL That better be satire in relation to PUA ****.
 

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If you want to quit, let yourself smoke all you want ... of the most disgusting cigarettes you can find. Menthol cigars worked for me. Soon your brain will associate nicotine with unhappiness instead of pleasure.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
If you want to quit, let yourself smoke all you want ... of the most disgusting cigarettes you can find. Menthol cigars worked for me. Soon your brain will associate nicotine with unhappiness instead of pleasure.
haha thats genius. but i think i have strong will power when it comes to NOT doing something... getting out of bed is a different story. anyways the insanity of earlier wore off...but is it gonna be back tommorow? i cant believe i would just have to survive a day and a half of madness to quit.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
If you want to quit, let yourself smoke all you want ... of the most disgusting cigarettes you can find. Menthol cigars worked for me. Soon your brain will associate nicotine with unhappiness instead of pleasure.
Not everyone is addicted to the taste, there are those who have an oral compulsion.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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well i want one now but not in the heroinesque withdraw way that i wanted one yesterday. i hope the worst is past, and i hope i dont get fuccked up and decide to have one. that broke me last time.
 

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The only way you will sucessfully quit is if you want to.
If you quit because you think you have too, but still enjoy it you'l soon fail as i found out many times.
It wasnt till i felt ill, and knew it was killing me i didnt want to do it anymore it wasn't enjoyable.
I havent looked back yet, after 6 months but its still slightly hard.
 

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chronic99uk said:
The only way you will sucessfully quit is if you want to.
If you quit because you think you have too, but still enjoy it you'l soon fail as i found out many times.
It wasnt till i felt ill, and knew it was killing me i didnt want to do it anymore it wasn't enjoyable.
I havent looked back yet, after 6 months but its still slightly hard.
man. i do enjoy it and miss it. idk, i'm reforming myself, going to the gym quitting smoking etc, but it just doesnt feel like me, you dig? idk i was always a led zepplin play guitar smoke cigarettes get drunk tonight kinda kid...its just weird i guess.
 

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If you want to quit, let yourself smoke all you want ... of the most disgusting cigarettes you can find. Menthol cigars worked for me. Soon your brain will associate nicotine with unhappiness instead of pleasure.
I tried that and it didn't work for me. I smoked those really cheap cigarettes that taste like ass and do a number on your lungs. I decided enough was enough and went back to smoking my regular brand.

I read "Allen Carr's Easyway to Stop Smoking" and I've been smoke free for almost 4 months now. The only day that really sucked was the first day after quitting. After that, it just got easier and easier.

I went through a few "replacement" phases. First, it was breathmints. Then, it was potato chips. Those habits require willpower to quit. A drug addiction requires endurance.

For danno, I'm gonna give you a bit of what Allen Carr talked about... Smoking is a chain reaction. The last cigarette you smoked is making you crave another one. You have to break that goddam chain and NEVER smoke again!

Trust me, it gets better. Give it a month before it gets tolerable. Two months, and you'll be fine.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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dannowillbookem said:
man. i do enjoy it and miss it. idk, i'm reforming myself, going to the gym quitting smoking etc, but it just doesnt feel like me, you dig? idk i was always a led zepplin play guitar smoke cigarettes get drunk tonight kinda kid...its just weird i guess.

Its very diffucult, although i dont buy cigs anymore or smoke any per day i live with people who smoke infront of me all the time, and i get alot of second hand smoke and it taste good. I want to go back and i think im soon to fail again.

The first week is the hardest, it does get easier, very much like DJ'ing.
 

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Toothpicks helped my dad quit.
This is a good example of replacement therapy. Your dad just enjoyed having something in his mouth. For some people it's candy or gum, for others its a non food stuff like a toothpick or a pen.
 

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Desdinova said:
I tried that and it didn't work for me. I smoked those really cheap cigarettes that taste like ass and do a number on your lungs. I decided enough was enough and went back to smoking my regular brand.

I read "Allen Carr's Easyway to Stop Smoking" and I've been smoke free for almost 4 months now. The only day that really sucked was the first day after quitting. After that, it just got easier and easier.

I went through a few "replacement" phases. First, it was breathmints. Then, it was potato chips. Those habits require willpower to quit. A drug addiction requires endurance.

For danno, I'm gonna give you a bit of what Allen Carr talked about... Smoking is a chain reaction. The last cigarette you smoked is making you crave another one. You have to break that goddam chain and NEVER smoke again!

Trust me, it gets better. Give it a month before it gets tolerable. Two months, and you'll be fine.
bump. I read the book too. Now I'm almost 4 month smoke free after 10 years of smoking. Never will I touch a cigarette again.

The beginning is the most difficult time because your brain has been associating the cigarette with events/feelings: stress, boredom, excitement, relaxation, socializing,...

I certainly advise everybody that wants to quit smoking to read Alen Carr's book.
Without going too much in to details: the basics of the books is to make you think about why you are smoking. Stop thinking: you have to stop thinking about the evident disadvantages and start think about what you think are the advantages of smoking.

You need the find the reasons of why you smoke, you have to objectively think about why you light a cigarette everytime you do it. Smoke the cigarette, and think about why you are doing it. The book gives you explanations about why you are doing it. Once you understand this, it's easy to quit.

This is an example:
I used to smoke a lot when going to clubs. When I start to think about, I noticed that I smoked when I felt boredom.
1. There's nothing interesting about a cigarette.
2. After the cigarette you're still bored, so you light another one.
3. The cigarette is an attack at your confidence. Nothing less confident than a man sitting bored on a chair in a club with a cigarette.

So you have to de-learn the patterns that you have learned during your time smoking. Cigarettes are drugs.

Succes!
 

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It's all about breaking chains

like newbie said, I started smoking too to fill in those gaps of boredom.....a 10 minute break at a waiter job, time to kill before going to class, a long drive to work. But I feel the best way to get anything off of your mind is to think about the things you want in life that you're working for. For me it's a healthy body at age 40, to afford my own place in the next 3 months, manage school, work, and social life. These things have nothing to do with smoking so when I think about them I don't get cravings to smoke.

Chewing gum helps but don't rely on it totally, deep breathing exercises are the way to go in my opinion, this way you can get a feel for what cigs really do to you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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