"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Quitting caffeine

Rhino22

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I have had some serious issues with anxiety in the past and still do today, but I am also a heavy caffeine drinker (2 red bulls a day). I have decreaed my intake before and found the anxiety is reduced. I want to quit completely though and I am hoping that this will make me feel more comfortable about approaching women and just strangers in general. Do you think this could have a significant change on my behavior if I quit?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ENIGMA16

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Yes. Caffeine isn't something you should be regularly consuming; on top of the sleep issues it causes it also can increase anxiety.

I used to drink coffee every morning. I quit and now I don't crash in the afternoon. I've never had any anxiety issues but I don't think anyone should be consuming caffeine on a regular basis. I only consume coffee/tea or caffeinated soda 2-3 times a week now, and always make sure it's around the early afternoon so it doesn't affect the productivity of my day (if I crash it's in the evening) or my sleep.
 

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Ive never really drunk caffeinated drinks. I dont even drink soft drinks often.

Try replacing the redbull with healthy alternatives, water, milk, fruit juice etc. So long as you are drinking somthing refreshing it should help you stay away from the caffeine.

Cure.
 

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Caffiene messes with hormones, cortisol being one (stess hormone). You'll have more of a balance if you cut it out, but expect to be very tired the first 2-3 days.
 

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I have read articles that said if caffeine was a recent found drug it would be controlled by like the FDA. caffeine does really work you up. also eating foods in sugar and foods that are not healthy can really affect that too. the thing is to get exercise everyday, good exercise and eat good food. you can eat junk food but in moderations and maybe once a week at the most. try it and you will figure it out and what exactly to do.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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