"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Quitting caffeine

Rhino22

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I have had some serious issues with anxiety in the past and still do today, but I am also a heavy caffeine drinker (2 red bulls a day). I have decreaed my intake before and found the anxiety is reduced. I want to quit completely though and I am hoping that this will make me feel more comfortable about approaching women and just strangers in general. Do you think this could have a significant change on my behavior if I quit?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ENIGMA16

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Yes. Caffeine isn't something you should be regularly consuming; on top of the sleep issues it causes it also can increase anxiety.

I used to drink coffee every morning. I quit and now I don't crash in the afternoon. I've never had any anxiety issues but I don't think anyone should be consuming caffeine on a regular basis. I only consume coffee/tea or caffeinated soda 2-3 times a week now, and always make sure it's around the early afternoon so it doesn't affect the productivity of my day (if I crash it's in the evening) or my sleep.
 

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Ive never really drunk caffeinated drinks. I dont even drink soft drinks often.

Try replacing the redbull with healthy alternatives, water, milk, fruit juice etc. So long as you are drinking somthing refreshing it should help you stay away from the caffeine.

Cure.
 

Quagmire911

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Caffiene messes with hormones, cortisol being one (stess hormone). You'll have more of a balance if you cut it out, but expect to be very tired the first 2-3 days.
 

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I have read articles that said if caffeine was a recent found drug it would be controlled by like the FDA. caffeine does really work you up. also eating foods in sugar and foods that are not healthy can really affect that too. the thing is to get exercise everyday, good exercise and eat good food. you can eat junk food but in moderations and maybe once a week at the most. try it and you will figure it out and what exactly to do.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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