"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Quitting caffeine

Rhino22

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I have had some serious issues with anxiety in the past and still do today, but I am also a heavy caffeine drinker (2 red bulls a day). I have decreaed my intake before and found the anxiety is reduced. I want to quit completely though and I am hoping that this will make me feel more comfortable about approaching women and just strangers in general. Do you think this could have a significant change on my behavior if I quit?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ENIGMA16

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Yes. Caffeine isn't something you should be regularly consuming; on top of the sleep issues it causes it also can increase anxiety.

I used to drink coffee every morning. I quit and now I don't crash in the afternoon. I've never had any anxiety issues but I don't think anyone should be consuming caffeine on a regular basis. I only consume coffee/tea or caffeinated soda 2-3 times a week now, and always make sure it's around the early afternoon so it doesn't affect the productivity of my day (if I crash it's in the evening) or my sleep.
 

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Ive never really drunk caffeinated drinks. I dont even drink soft drinks often.

Try replacing the redbull with healthy alternatives, water, milk, fruit juice etc. So long as you are drinking somthing refreshing it should help you stay away from the caffeine.

Cure.
 

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Caffiene messes with hormones, cortisol being one (stess hormone). You'll have more of a balance if you cut it out, but expect to be very tired the first 2-3 days.
 

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I have read articles that said if caffeine was a recent found drug it would be controlled by like the FDA. caffeine does really work you up. also eating foods in sugar and foods that are not healthy can really affect that too. the thing is to get exercise everyday, good exercise and eat good food. you can eat junk food but in moderations and maybe once a week at the most. try it and you will figure it out and what exactly to do.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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