"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hi guys

Since february till about the end of september I've been drinking 2-3 beers a day. During the weekends it was even more when I was out with friends. Even though this was not extreme and I did this because I was emotionally a bit down, I felt this was not a good lifestyle. My work or gym schedule didn't suffer, but still.

Since october I drastically reduced my alcohol intake, I still drink from time to time (during weekends or on social occassions, but not at home anymore).

What a difference! I feel so much better during the day, I'm more talkative, more energy,... And even though those 2-3 drinks a day didn't give me a hangover the next day, completely cutting off has made such a difference. The day following the days where I still drink, I notice it. I'm more down, less prone to talk to people,...

I only hope this is not a placebo effect or some effect that wears off after a few weeks.

The next step is completely stop drinking, this will be very difficult as I still enjoy a good beer on a hot day or on certain occassions. But my advice, if you are in the same situation as I was, drastically reduce your alcohol intake.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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most people don't undersrand 'moderation'...

it's either 1. ban the stuff

or 2. drink till you're blind....

both positions are dumb.
 
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Best of luck. I know I couldn't do it. Most of the chicks I'm attracted to and generally get are drinkers who I meet at paces that involve drinking.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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My situation is very similar to yours and I can tell you, I feel immensely better since I cut back. I am getting to the point now wehre I don't even feel like getting a drink during social occasions. Drinking tends to shadow a low self-esteem, and give people that false confidence. I would rather drink water or tea now.

Oddly enough, what also helped is attracting women who don't drink much. My main girl now drinks maybe one drink one day a week, my exgf would drink the same or less. A couple of my plates from earlier this year were the same. Funny enough, my exwife still drinks quite a bit...
 
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Roober said:
My situation is very similar to yours and I can tell you, I feel immensely better since I cut back. I am getting to the point now wehre I don't even feel like getting a drink during social occasions. Drinking tends to shadow a low self-esteem, and give people that false confidence. I would rather drink water or tea now.

Oddly enough, what also helped is attracting women who don't drink much. My main girl now drinks maybe one drink one day a week, my exgf would drink the same or less. A couple of my plates from earlier this year were the same. Funny enough, my exwife still drinks quite a bit...
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I don’t think I’ll ever completely cut back even though I told so in the first post, but after thinking about it... I also want girls who don’t mind a drink.

The few girlfriends I had also liked a drink and there is something to getting drunk together. The sex than was also more uninhibited and animalistic. Which is not bad at all.

But yeah getting so drunk that you’ll spend the next day completely hungover, hell no.
 
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SayWhat said:
Hi guys

Since february till about the end of september I've been drinking 2-3 beers a day. During the weekends it was even more when I was out with friends. Even though this was not extreme and I did this because I was emotionally a bit down, I felt this was not a good lifestyle. My work or gym schedule didn't suffer, but still.

Since october I drastically reduced my alcohol intake, I still drink from time to time (during weekends or on social occassions, but not at home anymore).

What a difference! I feel so much better during the day, I'm more talkative, more energy,... And even though those 2-3 drinks a day didn't give me a hangover the next day, completely cutting off has made such a difference. The day following the days where I still drink, I notice it. I'm more down, less prone to talk to people,...

I only hope this is not a placebo effect or some effect that wears off after a few weeks.

The next step is completely stop drinking, this will be very difficult as I still enjoy a good beer on a hot day or on certain occassions. But my advice, if you are in the same situation as I was, drastically reduce your alcohol intake.
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