Drop the phrase "just kidding" from your vocabulary. It subliminally hints at insecurity ("If this joke's not funny enough or they take it the wrong way, I'll provide the easy way out.") It gives away the mysteriousness of a joke - you want women to wonder "Is he serious?" and determine the answer themselves. If they don't get the joke and find it amusing, you either need to improve your sense of humor/joke delivery, or they need to buzz off. Either way, "just kidding" should never need to be used!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Quick tip: You know what? Maybe I'm not kidding.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Never should be used out of weakenss only.
War Against Betaism
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Another thing, if you're talking on AIM, completely drop "lol". I've noticed that people use lol even when something isn't funny.
Francisco d'Anconia
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And an ineptness of c/f.Incog said:Drop the phrase "just kidding" from your vocabulary. It subliminally hints at insecurity...
Bonhomme
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Interesting point.
Only problem is you could be so dry people really don't know if you're joking or not.
Only problem is you could be so dry people really don't know if you're joking or not.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You still have to smile/laugh at times, you can't just sit there with a straight face the entire time.Bonhomme said:Interesting point.
Only problem is you could be so dry people really don't know if you're joking or not.
Also, to oldschooler, this should come naturally as I noticed I dropped the phrase when I became a DJ - I no longer cared what they thought about the joke or if they took offense to it.
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Gotta love sarcasm, you can say what you really mean, but ostensibly you're "just kidding." Like the OP said though, if you're joking around, people should know it. If not, then they aren't worth talking to.