Drop the phrase "just kidding" from your vocabulary. It subliminally hints at insecurity ("If this joke's not funny enough or they take it the wrong way, I'll provide the easy way out.") It gives away the mysteriousness of a joke - you want women to wonder "Is he serious?" and determine the answer themselves. If they don't get the joke and find it amusing, you either need to improve your sense of humor/joke delivery, or they need to buzz off. Either way, "just kidding" should never need to be used!
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Quick tip: You know what? Maybe I'm not kidding.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
spesmilitis
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Never should be used out of weakenss only.
War Against Betaism
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Another thing, if you're talking on AIM, completely drop "lol". I've noticed that people use lol even when something isn't funny.
Francisco d'Anconia
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And an ineptness of c/f.Incog said:Drop the phrase "just kidding" from your vocabulary. It subliminally hints at insecurity...
Bonhomme
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Interesting point.
Only problem is you could be so dry people really don't know if you're joking or not.
Only problem is you could be so dry people really don't know if you're joking or not.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You still have to smile/laugh at times, you can't just sit there with a straight face the entire time.Bonhomme said:Interesting point.
Only problem is you could be so dry people really don't know if you're joking or not.
Also, to oldschooler, this should come naturally as I noticed I dropped the phrase when I became a DJ - I no longer cared what they thought about the joke or if they took offense to it.
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Gotta love sarcasm, you can say what you really mean, but ostensibly you're "just kidding." Like the OP said though, if you're joking around, people should know it. If not, then they aren't worth talking to.