Drop the phrase "just kidding" from your vocabulary. It subliminally hints at insecurity ("If this joke's not funny enough or they take it the wrong way, I'll provide the easy way out.") It gives away the mysteriousness of a joke - you want women to wonder "Is he serious?" and determine the answer themselves. If they don't get the joke and find it amusing, you either need to improve your sense of humor/joke delivery, or they need to buzz off. Either way, "just kidding" should never need to be used!
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Quick tip: You know what? Maybe I'm not kidding.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Never should be used out of weakenss only.
War Against Betaism
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Another thing, if you're talking on AIM, completely drop "lol". I've noticed that people use lol even when something isn't funny.
Francisco d'Anconia
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And an ineptness of c/f.Incog said:Drop the phrase "just kidding" from your vocabulary. It subliminally hints at insecurity...
Bonhomme
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Interesting point.
Only problem is you could be so dry people really don't know if you're joking or not.
Only problem is you could be so dry people really don't know if you're joking or not.
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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
You still have to smile/laugh at times, you can't just sit there with a straight face the entire time.Bonhomme said:Interesting point.
Only problem is you could be so dry people really don't know if you're joking or not.
Also, to oldschooler, this should come naturally as I noticed I dropped the phrase when I became a DJ - I no longer cared what they thought about the joke or if they took offense to it.
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Gotta love sarcasm, you can say what you really mean, but ostensibly you're "just kidding." Like the OP said though, if you're joking around, people should know it. If not, then they aren't worth talking to.