"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Quick tip for the first kiss

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When you want to know if she wants you to kiss her

look in her eyes when the moment is right, smirk, and confidently say "you should kiss me now"

any answer she gives other than disgust, or flat-out rejection means she wants you to kiss her. If she asks "oh? why should I do that?" it means she is thinking about it positively, otherwise she wouldnt be asking. so thats your cue
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Nice tip...I just grab her and pull her in, and take her head in my hands, and turn her mouth towards me if needed, and first I peck her lips a time or two to make sure she is receptive, then go for the tongue.
 

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I kinda like the, "brush her hair away from her face/cheek" test. If she doesn't turn away, she's ready for a kiss.

Usually, once the kino has escalated past the common stuff, a kiss is safe too. I honestly try to close every first date with at least a kiss. At LEAST. To tell the truth, a little peck on the lips is not as presumptuous as one might think. There are cultures where people routinely kiss each other on the lips without any thought of intimacy or sexuality. Especially in these sexually liberated times, a kiss is in 2006 what a hug was in 1986.

As far as "going for the tongue", I rarely initiate that until some heavy kissing has gone down. Then you can test her by just touching your tongue to her lip with a kiss very lightly and seeing whether she becomes more receptive. You don't wanna just shove it in her mouth. Kissing is a subtle, gentle art.
 

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I've noticed a girl looks at my lips a lot right before she wants you to kiss her. I've also read somewhere that if a girl lets you touch her hair, then she wants you to kiss her, but then again I've touched girls hair upon meeting them 5 mins ago, and I don't think kissing them would had been appropriate, but who knows. Good tip though.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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its funny, I actually got this tip from the game "Bully" for PS2 :p

tried it a few times, found it worked, thought a bit about the message behind it, and realized its very sound.

by doing this, you are being very confident, and very direct.

the advantage in being very direct, is that she can give you either a YES or a NO. (and when women give you a maybe-type answer, its usually a yes ;))
this way, is you're direct, and say no, you wont be trying to figure out if she wants a kiss for the rest of the date; you'll know to keep working at it, or let her go if shes not interested.
 

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technically, ALL this stuff should be natural, and there shouldnt be any need for this site or the "seduction community". but since we're working toward it being natural, I see this as a means to an end.

This technique is just good for getting a definite yes/no as to whether the time is right to kiss her. no relying on vague signals like playing with her hair, or NLP scripts to get her in the mood. just a direct statement, followed by her response. no games, no tricks, no time wasted cuz of her lack of interest, just an answer right away. thats the ADDMAN way
 

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buh-buh-bump!
 

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IF everything is going well just get closer to the girl till shes either in your arms on your lap or rubbing up against you. Tilt her head in a more appropriate position if the girl DOES not want to kiss you she will most likely stop you here continue getting closer, heres the last chance a girl will stop you if she doesnt turn her head she will most likely meet your kiss and then your set.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I was with a girl that smoked the other night. it was at a party and i had smoked alittle bit so it wasnt that bad.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ive done that before, hookah kiss, didnt realize it had a name though. shotgun kiss thats cool.
 

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THE_ADDMAN said:
When you want to know if she wants you to kiss her

look in her eyes when the moment is right, smirk, and confidently say "you should kiss me now"

any answer she gives other than disgust, or flat-out rejection means she wants you to kiss her. If she asks "oh? why should I do that?" it means she is thinking about it positively, otherwise she wouldnt be asking. so thats your cue
This is not a very good tip at all.

Well...I guess it might work with some women.
 

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I also agree that the first post is not a very good tip. It seems like a forced routine which is everything a kiss is not supposed to be. If you want to kiss your woman, you simply need to get her attention, bring yourself right up close to her so your bodys are very close, look into her eyes and go in for the kiss. Its either a sure win or a failure and both are great indicators of how things have gone.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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