"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Quick tip for the first kiss

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When you want to know if she wants you to kiss her

look in her eyes when the moment is right, smirk, and confidently say "you should kiss me now"

any answer she gives other than disgust, or flat-out rejection means she wants you to kiss her. If she asks "oh? why should I do that?" it means she is thinking about it positively, otherwise she wouldnt be asking. so thats your cue
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

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She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Nice tip...I just grab her and pull her in, and take her head in my hands, and turn her mouth towards me if needed, and first I peck her lips a time or two to make sure she is receptive, then go for the tongue.
 

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I kinda like the, "brush her hair away from her face/cheek" test. If she doesn't turn away, she's ready for a kiss.

Usually, once the kino has escalated past the common stuff, a kiss is safe too. I honestly try to close every first date with at least a kiss. At LEAST. To tell the truth, a little peck on the lips is not as presumptuous as one might think. There are cultures where people routinely kiss each other on the lips without any thought of intimacy or sexuality. Especially in these sexually liberated times, a kiss is in 2006 what a hug was in 1986.

As far as "going for the tongue", I rarely initiate that until some heavy kissing has gone down. Then you can test her by just touching your tongue to her lip with a kiss very lightly and seeing whether she becomes more receptive. You don't wanna just shove it in her mouth. Kissing is a subtle, gentle art.
 

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I've noticed a girl looks at my lips a lot right before she wants you to kiss her. I've also read somewhere that if a girl lets you touch her hair, then she wants you to kiss her, but then again I've touched girls hair upon meeting them 5 mins ago, and I don't think kissing them would had been appropriate, but who knows. Good tip though.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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its funny, I actually got this tip from the game "Bully" for PS2 :p

tried it a few times, found it worked, thought a bit about the message behind it, and realized its very sound.

by doing this, you are being very confident, and very direct.

the advantage in being very direct, is that she can give you either a YES or a NO. (and when women give you a maybe-type answer, its usually a yes ;))
this way, is you're direct, and say no, you wont be trying to figure out if she wants a kiss for the rest of the date; you'll know to keep working at it, or let her go if shes not interested.
 

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technically, ALL this stuff should be natural, and there shouldnt be any need for this site or the "seduction community". but since we're working toward it being natural, I see this as a means to an end.

This technique is just good for getting a definite yes/no as to whether the time is right to kiss her. no relying on vague signals like playing with her hair, or NLP scripts to get her in the mood. just a direct statement, followed by her response. no games, no tricks, no time wasted cuz of her lack of interest, just an answer right away. thats the ADDMAN way
 

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buh-buh-bump!
 

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IF everything is going well just get closer to the girl till shes either in your arms on your lap or rubbing up against you. Tilt her head in a more appropriate position if the girl DOES not want to kiss you she will most likely stop you here continue getting closer, heres the last chance a girl will stop you if she doesnt turn her head she will most likely meet your kiss and then your set.
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I was with a girl that smoked the other night. it was at a party and i had smoked alittle bit so it wasnt that bad.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ive done that before, hookah kiss, didnt realize it had a name though. shotgun kiss thats cool.
 

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THE_ADDMAN said:
When you want to know if she wants you to kiss her

look in her eyes when the moment is right, smirk, and confidently say "you should kiss me now"

any answer she gives other than disgust, or flat-out rejection means she wants you to kiss her. If she asks "oh? why should I do that?" it means she is thinking about it positively, otherwise she wouldnt be asking. so thats your cue
This is not a very good tip at all.

Well...I guess it might work with some women.
 

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I also agree that the first post is not a very good tip. It seems like a forced routine which is everything a kiss is not supposed to be. If you want to kiss your woman, you simply need to get her attention, bring yourself right up close to her so your bodys are very close, look into her eyes and go in for the kiss. Its either a sure win or a failure and both are great indicators of how things have gone.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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