Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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It means that you don't come across as very assertive. It seems like you're in the "anti dump" mode and are making pre-emptive strikes in case she rejects or flakes....it seems like your actions are a buffer to rejection.

If you give them a specific time and place and they are not available to can counter offer with a specific time and place. I mean what's the point in someone saying to you let's go for a drink sometime. It never happens. When is sometime? before armagedeon?

Anxious to set in minor details?????? If I want to meet up with someone, the time, place and hour are minor details??? What, our energy will
just find each other?


Again, this sounds so vague and is if you have no plans the weekend. In fact it sounds very Corey Wayne. You're leaving it in her hands and she senses the vagueness from you. She thinks you're unsure and probably thinks you have zero interest level. This gives the impression that you're available all weekend. "you tell me when you're free babe, and I'll come running"

Sometimes the woman is a mirror.
I made her an offer, gave her a time. She said, no, can't. Now I said "OK, since you can't at this time and day, let me know when you can". There is no need for me to propose another time and date. How she takes this is none of my problem. I am being as direct and communicative with her as possible. She is being...vague, at best.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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