"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Quick # question

white cloud 8

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Hi,

Remember I posted awhile back about losing that girl's number within a matter of minutes *smacks forehead...* Anyway, I've been meaning to go and talk to her but, haven't had the time to. She gave me her cell # but, I just checked the phone book and seen her home #. Should I call her or would it look stalker-ish? She gave me her cell #, not her home # :confused:. Should I call and say that I misplaced her number and I just looked her up in the phonebook? Is that wrong?

*I really like this girl but, would this look weird from her point of view?
 

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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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quest

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Originally posted by white cloud 8
I just checked the phone book and seen her home #. Should I call her or would it look stalker-ish?
you're already "stalker-ish"
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Re: Re: Quick # question

Originally posted by quest
you're already "stalker-ish"
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
 

white cloud 8

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bad idea then, right?
 

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I'm guessing you misplaced her cell number, from the sounds of it. While it is creepy that you looked up her number in the phone book (how'd you remember her first and last name but not her number?!) you could always play it off as if she gave you the house number instead.

"Huh? This is your house phone, and not your cell? I don't know what you're talking about - this is the number you gave me... how drunk were you that night?!"
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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white cloud 8

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actually she's my classmate from this past year (we were in the same classes).
 

Scoiland

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just tell her that your phone broke and that you lost her number, easy as that

However, if there is no chance you will ever see her again then just call it is better to be rejected then to regret
 

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Hello

If her number is in the phone book, it is a public number. If she didn't want anybody to use her home phone number she would have it unlisted.

Just call her and tell her that you lost her cell number. She probably wont mind. If she does, she will find a way to tell you and that will be the end of it. There is no matter to worry.
 

white cloud 8

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....I'm thinking f*ck it, I'll go see her after class :rockon:. Just grab my balls and go see her. The thing is I feel a little awkward I mean, just drop by and say 'Hi, haven't seen you in a while...blah blah blah...' (I asked for her cell # early last month and haven't seen her around since).
 

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dont tell her anything, making excuses up is weak, it shows weakness if you need to come up with an excuss for finding her number! She is only going to make a big deal of it if you do, so just dont mention it and she wont either!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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