"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Quick # question

white cloud 8

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Hi,

Remember I posted awhile back about losing that girl's number within a matter of minutes *smacks forehead...* Anyway, I've been meaning to go and talk to her but, haven't had the time to. She gave me her cell # but, I just checked the phone book and seen her home #. Should I call her or would it look stalker-ish? She gave me her cell #, not her home # :confused:. Should I call and say that I misplaced her number and I just looked her up in the phonebook? Is that wrong?

*I really like this girl but, would this look weird from her point of view?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by white cloud 8
I just checked the phone book and seen her home #. Should I call her or would it look stalker-ish?
you're already "stalker-ish"
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Re: Re: Quick # question

Originally posted by quest
you're already "stalker-ish"
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
 

white cloud 8

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bad idea then, right?
 

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I'm guessing you misplaced her cell number, from the sounds of it. While it is creepy that you looked up her number in the phone book (how'd you remember her first and last name but not her number?!) you could always play it off as if she gave you the house number instead.

"Huh? This is your house phone, and not your cell? I don't know what you're talking about - this is the number you gave me... how drunk were you that night?!"
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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white cloud 8

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actually she's my classmate from this past year (we were in the same classes).
 

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just tell her that your phone broke and that you lost her number, easy as that

However, if there is no chance you will ever see her again then just call it is better to be rejected then to regret
 

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Hello

If her number is in the phone book, it is a public number. If she didn't want anybody to use her home phone number she would have it unlisted.

Just call her and tell her that you lost her cell number. She probably wont mind. If she does, she will find a way to tell you and that will be the end of it. There is no matter to worry.
 

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....I'm thinking f*ck it, I'll go see her after class :rockon:. Just grab my balls and go see her. The thing is I feel a little awkward I mean, just drop by and say 'Hi, haven't seen you in a while...blah blah blah...' (I asked for her cell # early last month and haven't seen her around since).
 

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dont tell her anything, making excuses up is weak, it shows weakness if you need to come up with an excuss for finding her number! She is only going to make a big deal of it if you do, so just dont mention it and she wont either!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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