"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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If I were you, I'd try to fix that problem first before going after other chicks so you're in the right mindset. Did you read the Bible already?
teacha
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dude you slackin'...not cool.DJ00 said:Should you try to game chicks while you're heartbroken or wait to get happy without women again then start up gaming again?
I've gotten one number of a chick thru myspace tho she might be below my looks standards but not by much.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Monday - She sent me a pic and a caption saying," hope ur having a good day"
Tuesday - "If you only knew by shinedown" (mushy song)
Thursday - "DJ00 Help!" (99.9% sure it was an immature attempt to get a text back)
I didn't take the bait on the thursday text because she's used this to get my attention before(immature fake story).. Tho maybe she wanted me to act concerned idk..
What do you guys think? i was going to keep up the NC until the point where she's pretty much begging to hang out with me but i'm not sure if i should intervene in some way.
Proselytiser
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decent advice, i'll probably stick to NC for now. there's 2 ways to go about the situation. she's resorted to an immature tactic to get my attention. don't really know what her intentions are at this point. NC could possibly be getting to her but who knows. based on her actions she at least wants my attention.Proselytiser said:Say 'Hey who's this? You've texted me XX times the last few days' as if you deleted her number and don't recognise her
It all boils down to what i want. I want her to feel the emotion that she lost me to the point where she's thinking about me on a daily/hourly basis. At this point im still in the "i can't make her want me" mode. I'd like to keep this mentality until she at least sweats about this until she is almost begging me to hang out with her. It's pretty cut and dry, if this doesn't happen i can't contact her.
Any other thoughts?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.