"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Quick lesson on patience and desperation.

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Just over 3 weeks ago - I pulled a chick, number grab- kiss closed. Set up a date on the 14th, kiss close. She told me she had fun, thanked me for the day. (only spent an hour on her though - this is the "get to know you") Kept it light and fun, dropped her off home.

She seemed keen at the time.

Since then I didnt contact her, I have other plates and work on so extra plates just arent a priority.

She pulled in contact today, still keen and not at all upset that she'd been set back as a low priority, didn't feel snubbed and I set up another meet for next week. (she is awarei am a busy man and my time is valuable.)



Sosuave taught me that the girl should be the one to initiate as much as possible. ESPECIALLY AFTER THE FIRST DATE. (Now I never initiate after the first meet - If they dont come for it then someone else gets the D)

Sosuave taught me to spin plates and not to worry about the girls because they will come.

Sosuave taught me to use the telephone to set up dates and dont waste time trying to charm or entertain via text.


Sosuave was right on all three points.

Her hamster spun enough over two weeks wondering why I hadnt chased until she gave in and had to find out if I would come and smash her back doors in.

Fortunately for her - I am quite happy to do so.



Utilise what youve learnt here boys.

peace.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Nice one.

Yeah, I think I'm pretty much done making first contact after the first date.
 

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Update - Didnt contact her until yesterday (the day of) and that was just a quick confirmation txt saying "Ill be at yours around 6".

She says cool, Therefore I'm not wasting time and she's still keen.


More proof that running it "Textbook DonJuan" is productive.

No trying to charm her over the phone - short and sweet, less is more and let my winning personality and powerful smile do the work for me in person.

Stay strong, keep the phone on a tight leash.
 

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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