"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Quick help - AFC coming out

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Before I begin , this thread is not for those that just want to spin plates for life , those who have experience with LTR feel free to respond.

I have noticed a HEAVY flaw in my game that I need help fixing. To begin , I have zero problems attracting girls ,or keeping girls. The only problem comes when I actually LIKE the girl.
This year I decided to stay relationship free after my failed 4 year relationship. I can tell all my plates have very high interest. I recently met this girl during the summer and I actually fell for her.

For some reason I can't seem to give her the same treatment as my plates , I try but I just keep reverting back to making simple mistakes.
At this point I believe the only thing holding any attraction I'm her eyes is the fact that during the week I'm working 12 hours then I head to the gym after so she doesn't get to text me down or call me.
When we meet in person , everything is smooth and she always have a great time each time around.

Now the reason I'm opening this thread now is the fact that I made the ultimate AFC move last night , I went to the strip club with some buddies , drank and when she called I picked up. This was around 1 am , when I hung up the phone it was 4am !
I woke up this morning with a msg from her talking about how she enjoyed the convoy last night. I have just went ghost on her for now till I can get help with this situation. I'm far from needy but she seems to bring the AFC in me , which is not a state I ever want to be in again. I also see her as a potential GF so I don't wanna fuvjk this up.

I believe being able to spot my problems is a good start but how do I counter this ? And don't say spin plates , I have other girls that I have yet to reply to their messages and I feel no way but when it comes to her , I feel bad not replying.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Literally had to put her on auto reject because the Dj Bible preaches scarcity and been too available
 

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Question: Why did you talk to her from 1am to 4am? You were out having a good time with your friends. So why did you feel it was neccessary to talk to her for so long? What needed to be talked about then that couldnt have waited?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You are using the DJ Bible as dogma rather than a guideline.

Not a good idea.
Question: Why did you talk to her from 1am to 4am? You were out having a good time with your friends. So why did you feel it was neccessary to talk to her for so long? What needed to be talked about then that couldnt have waited?
Honestly , I got in the Uber & she called. I picked up and we made plans for the weekend, the rest only God knows why I stayed on the phone .
 

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Good. Keep being scarce but do it for yourself not her.
 
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