Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Quick help - AFC coming out

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Before I begin , this thread is not for those that just want to spin plates for life , those who have experience with LTR feel free to respond.

I have noticed a HEAVY flaw in my game that I need help fixing. To begin , I have zero problems attracting girls ,or keeping girls. The only problem comes when I actually LIKE the girl.
This year I decided to stay relationship free after my failed 4 year relationship. I can tell all my plates have very high interest. I recently met this girl during the summer and I actually fell for her.

For some reason I can't seem to give her the same treatment as my plates , I try but I just keep reverting back to making simple mistakes.
At this point I believe the only thing holding any attraction I'm her eyes is the fact that during the week I'm working 12 hours then I head to the gym after so she doesn't get to text me down or call me.
When we meet in person , everything is smooth and she always have a great time each time around.

Now the reason I'm opening this thread now is the fact that I made the ultimate AFC move last night , I went to the strip club with some buddies , drank and when she called I picked up. This was around 1 am , when I hung up the phone it was 4am !
I woke up this morning with a msg from her talking about how she enjoyed the convoy last night. I have just went ghost on her for now till I can get help with this situation. I'm far from needy but she seems to bring the AFC in me , which is not a state I ever want to be in again. I also see her as a potential GF so I don't wanna fuvjk this up.

I believe being able to spot my problems is a good start but how do I counter this ? And don't say spin plates , I have other girls that I have yet to reply to their messages and I feel no way but when it comes to her , I feel bad not replying.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Literally had to put her on auto reject because the Dj Bible preaches scarcity and been too available
 

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Question: Why did you talk to her from 1am to 4am? You were out having a good time with your friends. So why did you feel it was neccessary to talk to her for so long? What needed to be talked about then that couldnt have waited?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You are using the DJ Bible as dogma rather than a guideline.

Not a good idea.
Question: Why did you talk to her from 1am to 4am? You were out having a good time with your friends. So why did you feel it was neccessary to talk to her for so long? What needed to be talked about then that couldnt have waited?
Honestly , I got in the Uber & she called. I picked up and we made plans for the weekend, the rest only God knows why I stayed on the phone .
 

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Good. Keep being scarce but do it for yourself not her.
 
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