"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Paul Recker

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I met this girl 3-months ago. We e-mailed daily for about a week and then
started going out. We went out 4-5 times and we always both mentioned really
enjoyed spending time together. I also took her out for her birthday and gave
her a nice homemade gift of something she was interested in and a kissed her
good night in which she replied, "thank you, I was hoping you would do that".
Five days later (and two months into us knowing each other), she e-mails me and
tells me that she sees us as "just friends" but mentions three separate times
how much she has enjoyed getting to know me. (On a side note, she had a single
best friend (whose a female) about 40 years old she'll always bring up in our
conversations. In some respects I believe her friend may have having a bad
influence on her even though we've never met). I was completely blindsided
because we always told one another how much we cared for each other, how much
fun we had together, and we always looked forward to seeing each other, and we
always e-mailed each other each day. I really care about her, and don't want to
leave her behind, but my gut tells me I should. Do you have any have any good
advice? I know you're busy and please get back with me when you can.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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hockeyfreak79

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Sounds like you care way too much. How many times did fvck her?

I'm just speculating but you are probably right about gf. She might be having more fun partying with the gf. The just friends thing is her letting you down nicely. You got hit with LJB the consolation prize. Forget about her & find new prospects.
 
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Thank you for your input! I believe this what I should do going forward.
 

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Any time a girl goes from " i love spending time with you to suddely LJBF'S" your answer should always be the same.

"LJBF, perfect. I won't waste anymore of my time. Goodbye. "
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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did you fvck her...? I doubt it...
 
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