"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Paul Recker

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I met this girl 3-months ago. We e-mailed daily for about a week and then
started going out. We went out 4-5 times and we always both mentioned really
enjoyed spending time together. I also took her out for her birthday and gave
her a nice homemade gift of something she was interested in and a kissed her
good night in which she replied, "thank you, I was hoping you would do that".
Five days later (and two months into us knowing each other), she e-mails me and
tells me that she sees us as "just friends" but mentions three separate times
how much she has enjoyed getting to know me. (On a side note, she had a single
best friend (whose a female) about 40 years old she'll always bring up in our
conversations. In some respects I believe her friend may have having a bad
influence on her even though we've never met). I was completely blindsided
because we always told one another how much we cared for each other, how much
fun we had together, and we always looked forward to seeing each other, and we
always e-mailed each other each day. I really care about her, and don't want to
leave her behind, but my gut tells me I should. Do you have any have any good
advice? I know you're busy and please get back with me when you can.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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hockeyfreak79

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Sounds like you care way too much. How many times did fvck her?

I'm just speculating but you are probably right about gf. She might be having more fun partying with the gf. The just friends thing is her letting you down nicely. You got hit with LJB the consolation prize. Forget about her & find new prospects.
 
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Paul Recker

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Thank you for your input! I believe this what I should do going forward.
 

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Any time a girl goes from " i love spending time with you to suddely LJBF'S" your answer should always be the same.

"LJBF, perfect. I won't waste anymore of my time. Goodbye. "
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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did you fvck her...? I doubt it...
 
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