"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Paul Recker

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I met this girl 3-months ago. We e-mailed daily for about a week and then
started going out. We went out 4-5 times and we always both mentioned really
enjoyed spending time together. I also took her out for her birthday and gave
her a nice homemade gift of something she was interested in and a kissed her
good night in which she replied, "thank you, I was hoping you would do that".
Five days later (and two months into us knowing each other), she e-mails me and
tells me that she sees us as "just friends" but mentions three separate times
how much she has enjoyed getting to know me. (On a side note, she had a single
best friend (whose a female) about 40 years old she'll always bring up in our
conversations. In some respects I believe her friend may have having a bad
influence on her even though we've never met). I was completely blindsided
because we always told one another how much we cared for each other, how much
fun we had together, and we always looked forward to seeing each other, and we
always e-mailed each other each day. I really care about her, and don't want to
leave her behind, but my gut tells me I should. Do you have any have any good
advice? I know you're busy and please get back with me when you can.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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hockeyfreak79

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Sounds like you care way too much. How many times did fvck her?

I'm just speculating but you are probably right about gf. She might be having more fun partying with the gf. The just friends thing is her letting you down nicely. You got hit with LJB the consolation prize. Forget about her & find new prospects.
 
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Paul Recker

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Thank you for your input! I believe this what I should do going forward.
 

dude99

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Any time a girl goes from " i love spending time with you to suddely LJBF'S" your answer should always be the same.

"LJBF, perfect. I won't waste anymore of my time. Goodbye. "
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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did you fvck her...? I doubt it...
 
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