"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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quick advice!

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the other day i invited a girl to browse a record shop/get some coffee first meeting/date type thing.

i told her i was going to so and so place and so and so time and she should come along - she agreed.

i got her #, she doesn't have mine. the only thing i am questioning is, should i call a couple of hours before hand to offer to either pick her up or meet her there?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Call her tonight between the times of 9 and 11. At those times she will likely be at home doing nothing. Vibe with her for a bit and then confirm the plans of where and when you will be hanging out. Personally I'd pick her up.

Jay Lance
 
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cheer, man. i'm reading the archives and am finding the info i need.

we're actually going out tonight at 7:00 p.m. and i am thinking of calling her at 6:00 p.m and offering to pick her up.

something like...'hey, blah blah, i am on my way there now. tell me where you are so i can pick you up'?

sound good?
 
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JLance said:
Call her tonight between the times of 9 and 11. At those times she will likely be at home doing nothing. Vibe with her for a bit and then confirm the plans of where and when you will be hanging out. Personally I'd pick her up.

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good advice.
 
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coco99 said:
cheer, man. i'm reading the archives and am finding the info i need.

we're actually going out tonight at 7:00 p.m. and i am thinking of calling her at 6:00 p.m and offering to pick her up.

sound good?
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no call her now dude.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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coco99 said:
cheer, man. i'm reading the archives and am finding the info i need.

we're actually going out tonight at 7:00 p.m. and i am thinking of calling her at 6:00 p.m and offering to pick her up.

sound good?
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Call her right now! Talk about waiting until the last minute :)

Sometimes if plans aren't confirmed girls will make other plans. Especially is the girl is hot. A hot girl's phone rings all the time.

Jay Lance
 
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alright. the plans are confirmed. it is just a matter of getting there. she's got a car but i would rather pick her up and play on my home field
 
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alright. the plans are confirmed. it is just a matter of getting there. she's got a car but i would rather pick her up and play on my home field
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Good. Listen before you go do a quick workout. It will help you enormously with feeling comfortable. Don't forget your KINO! Good luck.

Jay Lance
 
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so, i think i was stood up.

i showed up at 7:10 p.m. and didn't see her anywhere. so i did what i went to do - which was to look for some music. did that for about 20 minutes and didn't see her. this place is huge. imagine a barnes and noble or chapters but just for music and stuff. so i grabbed some cds and went to lounge area and listened to them with a drink.

at about 8:00 p.m.i decided to jet and before leaving, approached a girl in the magazine area. got her phone and felt pretty good.
 
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Nice way turning the situation around and staying positive!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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so, me and the girl who i met at the record store (where i was stood up by the other girl) went out for a quick breakfast.

upon entering the cafe, i see out of the corner of my eye the same girl who stood me up having tea with one of her girlfriends in the corner. as i walked by her, she noticed me but i acknowledge her (i didn't snub her but just acted i like i didnt see her) and took a seat with my date with my back facing the girl who stood me up.

crazy coincidence.

the date went well though. later on, i went to work and she was working as well. she completely snubbed me with no smile or anything - though i didn't go over and talk to her either.
 
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i am working other girls but would like other people's opinions on when you should cut loose a prospect.

the same girl described earlier approached me at work and made attempted some small talk but i was busy and smiled and told her later. she then emailed me asking if i was excited about the upcoming gig - i didn't email her back. i never went over and talked to her and she didnt attempt to either again.

what should my next move be? should i turn show her some attention again and invite out for something else or what?
 
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