"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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arutha

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So theres the tip of acting disinterested to make her more interested in you and come and try to win you... But what if girls do it to you? What the hell do you do then? Can't go crawling over I know, and doing the same thing seems like it won't prove anything you'll both just be acting disinterested until nothing happens.

And I'm not just talking in person, like if she doesn't call for ages.. Call her after a week or something or what?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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It doesn't work the same way... girls don't have to pull this bullsh1t because men aren't controlled by an emotionally-fueled dementia which makes it necessary (like women).

So, in turn, this girl is not interested in you.... at all. That's ok though, there are plenty who will be. Go find them and pretend not to be interested :)
 

arutha

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Well she is actually.. She initially asked for my number, she initially set up a date, she made excuses to be around me, all the while I was playing it cool, giving her good eye contact and being funny. Its just sometimes she shifts off and from what I've read around here seems like she is pulling that trick to the letter...

One time I just turned and started talking to this other chick I kinda know and she came back and stood beside me fairly quick, but often there isn't many other people around or others I'd relate to.. And theres still the phone, so something else would be better.
 

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Well if she's showing interest, stop ***** footing around & confront her about it
 

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Confront her? Hey I've noticed your little signs, you're interested, well guess what? So am I!

Ok I'll be serious now.. Tennis as an action date? It was in the list of suggestions. Now golf, bowling whatever you ca easily get kino in, but tennis you are on opposite sides of a net the whole time? How does that work?

Maybe belt the ball at her then go over to give her a hug and 'kiss it better' wherever you managed to hit her? Jeez that could heat up if you were a good shot ay.:cool:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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