"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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arutha

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So theres the tip of acting disinterested to make her more interested in you and come and try to win you... But what if girls do it to you? What the hell do you do then? Can't go crawling over I know, and doing the same thing seems like it won't prove anything you'll both just be acting disinterested until nothing happens.

And I'm not just talking in person, like if she doesn't call for ages.. Call her after a week or something or what?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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drZaius09

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It doesn't work the same way... girls don't have to pull this bullsh1t because men aren't controlled by an emotionally-fueled dementia which makes it necessary (like women).

So, in turn, this girl is not interested in you.... at all. That's ok though, there are plenty who will be. Go find them and pretend not to be interested :)
 

arutha

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Well she is actually.. She initially asked for my number, she initially set up a date, she made excuses to be around me, all the while I was playing it cool, giving her good eye contact and being funny. Its just sometimes she shifts off and from what I've read around here seems like she is pulling that trick to the letter...

One time I just turned and started talking to this other chick I kinda know and she came back and stood beside me fairly quick, but often there isn't many other people around or others I'd relate to.. And theres still the phone, so something else would be better.
 

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Well if she's showing interest, stop ***** footing around & confront her about it
 

arutha

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Confront her? Hey I've noticed your little signs, you're interested, well guess what? So am I!

Ok I'll be serious now.. Tennis as an action date? It was in the list of suggestions. Now golf, bowling whatever you ca easily get kino in, but tennis you are on opposite sides of a net the whole time? How does that work?

Maybe belt the ball at her then go over to give her a hug and 'kiss it better' wherever you managed to hit her? Jeez that could heat up if you were a good shot ay.:cool:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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