"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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RandomGuy22

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What's the dj way to handle getting LJBF'd, or if you're in a relationship and the girl calls it off.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DJoneday

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Say that's it and you're out of her life, don't stay her friend or it'll only be crappy...especially if she called it off. So cut off all contact with her and next it. I learned this the hard way...but now that I did it that way things couldn't be better. Good luck.
 
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the silent pause. there's an article about this. When she says it don't acknowledge what she said, just act like you didn't hear her and change the subject like, "Say, have you ever tried the so and so here, it's really good." She'll feel awkward and probably won't be inclined to make mention of it again. You continue to "hang out" with her then after you seduce her and say, "You know, I think you're right, we should just be friends." She'll eventually lose because she doesn't know how to fight it. If you just make her think she has feelings for you and then agree with her, she can't really argue. I wish I could find the article for it. I'll try to find it and post it.
What DJoneday just described is being an *******. There's a difference between having balls and being an *******, but it's only a few inches. Be carefull of that.
 
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