"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What's the dj way to handle getting LJBF'd, or if you're in a relationship and the girl calls it off.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Say that's it and you're out of her life, don't stay her friend or it'll only be crappy...especially if she called it off. So cut off all contact with her and next it. I learned this the hard way...but now that I did it that way things couldn't be better. Good luck.
 
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the silent pause. there's an article about this. When she says it don't acknowledge what she said, just act like you didn't hear her and change the subject like, "Say, have you ever tried the so and so here, it's really good." She'll feel awkward and probably won't be inclined to make mention of it again. You continue to "hang out" with her then after you seduce her and say, "You know, I think you're right, we should just be friends." She'll eventually lose because she doesn't know how to fight it. If you just make her think she has feelings for you and then agree with her, she can't really argue. I wish I could find the article for it. I'll try to find it and post it.
What DJoneday just described is being an *******. There's a difference between having balls and being an *******, but it's only a few inches. Be carefull of that.
 
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