"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Can you give us some more info? How do you know this chick, and who is her support friend?
squirrels
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A movie is a crummy first date...you already have a girl that you don't know well enough that she's comfortable meeting you alone, and now you want to hang with her in a dark place where she can't talk to you and get to know you. Balls. I go to movies by myself. You have company...make use of it.
2) Why is she bringing a friend? Is this an Internet deal? If she's bringing a friend, she's trying to c*ck-block you. She's either not that into you, or she's wound way too tight for living.
"Support"...LOL!
I'd cancel. Tell her I'm not gonna make it. I had a girl pull that "bringing a friend" crap last-minute on me. Her friend ended up drawing over a random pack of dudes so my date ended up looking out for HER, so I couldn't isolate. They talked for like an hour and a half about beer and getting drunk or some ****. I bailed.
Tell her that you're not into chaperone-dates. You're looking for someone more mature than that.
jophil28
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I would say, " She can come along only if I sit in between you two.You both get to hold only one of my hands each. Who gets what hand is a matter of negotiation beween you.window said:
Oh, and no crying, talking or sniffling at the weepy parts, and keep your hand off my leg or i will call your parents.."
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
The reason you don't want someone else there (not even if you find someone for that person or double date) is that it's a distraction between you and the girl and interrupt whatever vibe you're creating, maybe even cut your date short because they don't "feel well" or whatever.
Also, the other person can act like a c@ckblocker if they don't want to "give up" their friend to you.
Also, now you have to "entertain" their friend(s), IOW, they have to like you and as they're not there because they're interested in you in the first place, that can work against you. And if they don't like you, they'll influence her against you too, especially if this is one of your first dates in with her. So, why take the chance?
You have to date smart and reduce the odds of things happening that could work against you by running a tight ship.
True. It's passive and you're just sitting mutually staring at a screen, rather then having fun interacting together. That's why scary movies are better. But the reason he should go to the movies in this case is because SHE invited him. That signals some interest and it should be rewarded. It's just that she wants to bring along someone and that's not acceptable.squirrels said:
ChumpNoMore
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Rollo Tomassi
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If an adult female you'd like to be dating suggests a chaperone (i.e. cøckblocker) come along on the date, you're not dealing with an adult, you're dealing with an adolescent. At 37 y.o. I'd say it's long past due that you stop dating like a middle schooler.
Teenagers go on dates like this, adults do not.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.