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If a new girl suggests to you to go and see a movie with her but she sais she is bringing a friend along for "support" how do you deal with it ?

 

[horaholic]

Find a distraction for the friend. Blind date style. Actually, I would change plans altogether. I think you should go get a couple drinks together instead, till everyones comfortable, and save the movie, for when its just the two of you. Movies are bad first dates anyway.

Can you give us some more info? How do you know this chick, and who is her support friend?

 

[Jitterbug]

I'd only tolerate this "bring a friend for support" BS if I were still in high school. Adults should be able to deal with other people socially on their own.

I'd counter offer with something else.

 

[squirrels]

1) horaholic is right...why are you asking a girl to a movie the first night out? Juvenile behavior begets juvenile behavior. How did you arrange this date? Are you meeting her at her house? Your house? If she's uncomfortable, something like coffee at Starbucks might be a better play...meeting at a public place in broad daylight.

A movie is a crummy first date...you already have a girl that you don't know well enough that she's comfortable meeting you alone, and now you want to hang with her in a dark place where she can't talk to you and get to know you. Balls. I go to movies by myself. You have company...make use of it.

2) Why is she bringing a friend? Is this an Internet deal? If she's bringing a friend, she's trying to c*ck-block you. She's either not that into you, or she's wound way too tight for living.

"Support"...LOL!

I'd cancel. Tell her I'm not gonna make it. I had a girl pull that "bringing a friend" crap last-minute on me. Her friend ended up drawing over a random pack of dudes so my date ended up looking out for HER, so I couldn't isolate. They talked for like an hour and a half about beer and getting drunk or some ****. I bailed.

Tell her that you're not into chaperone-dates. You're looking for someone more mature than that.

 

[jophil28]

If a new girl suggests to you to go and see a movie with her but she sais she is bringing a friend along for "support" how do you deal with it ?

I would say, " She can come along only if I sit in between you two.You both get to hold only one of my hands each. Who gets what hand is a matter of negotiation beween you.
Oh, and no crying, talking or sniffling at the weepy parts, and keep your hand off my leg or i will call your parents.."

 

[STR8UP]

I accepted these terms ONE TIME.

Actually, she brought her best friend AND her little brother (didn't know about the brother) and expected me to pay.

I dumped her a few days before Valentines Day.

Eat that beeyotch!

 

[Mr. Me]

You don't agree to the date. Nicely turn her down and suggest another time when it can be just the two of you. Period. End of story. Sort of like, "Hey, thanks, but I'd rather do something just me and you. How's next Sunday? Let's go see it then."

The reason you don't want someone else there (not even if you find someone for that person or double date) is that it's a distraction between you and the girl and interrupt whatever vibe you're creating, maybe even cut your date short because they don't "feel well" or whatever.

Also, the other person can act like a c@ckblocker if they don't want to "give up" their friend to you.

Also, now you have to "entertain" their friend(s), IOW, they have to like you and as they're not there because they're interested in you in the first place, that can work against you. And if they don't like you, they'll influence her against you too, especially if this is one of your first dates in with her. So, why take the chance?

You have to date smart and reduce the odds of things happening that could work against you by running a tight ship.

A movie is a crummy first date.

True. It's passive and you're just sitting mutually staring at a screen, rather then having fun interacting together. That's why scary movies are better. But the reason he should go to the movies in this case is because SHE invited him. That signals some interest and it should be rewarded. It's just that she wants to bring along someone and that's not acceptable.

 

[ChumpNoMore]

Solid Mr. Me, so solid. :thumbup:

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

NEXT.

If an adult female you'd like to be dating suggests a chaperone (i.e. cøckblocker) come along on the date, you're not dealing with an adult, you're dealing with an adolescent. At 37 y.o. I'd say it's long past due that you stop dating like a middle schooler.

Teenagers go on dates like this, adults do not.

 

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Thanks fellas, case closed.