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Is getting married and having a family the way to go to a happy old age situation, with your adult kids to take care of you?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
question: who wants to die alone?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Planning your life based on what you ASSUME other people will do is the domain of fools.
Getting married out of fear is common, but its also retarded. Getting married guarantees absolutely nothing. Divorce is common and kids can grow up to be losers or a*sholes.
You have zero control over other people. You can only control yourself. Other people cannot make you happy either.
If you get married it needs to make logical sense. There are few situations where it does. Most people do it because they perceive it as "secure". However, the fact that people are emotional and unpredictable ensures there is nothing secure about getting married or starting a family in reality.
There are NO guarantees in life not matter what path you choose. So learn to accept that and you will make much smarter life choices.
Getting married out of fear is common, but its also retarded. Getting married guarantees absolutely nothing. Divorce is common and kids can grow up to be losers or a*sholes.
You have zero control over other people. You can only control yourself. Other people cannot make you happy either.
If you get married it needs to make logical sense. There are few situations where it does. Most people do it because they perceive it as "secure". However, the fact that people are emotional and unpredictable ensures there is nothing secure about getting married or starting a family in reality.
There are NO guarantees in life not matter what path you choose. So learn to accept that and you will make much smarter life choices.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
Everyone dies alone. Having a wife and kids only means you will not be able to save anything for your retirement. In the day it was worth it for a man to get married and have a family, because you received respect. You were king of your household and you were appreciated. It was okay to surrender a bit of your freedom, because society rewarded you for sacrificing for family.
Now fathers and husbands are the butt of sit-com jokes... the man is the blithering idiot. He is either a complete fool or a potential rape... waiting to happen.
For all you young guys out there you are a GODD@MN fool if you get married today in the US.
Now fathers and husbands are the butt of sit-com jokes... the man is the blithering idiot. He is either a complete fool or a potential rape... waiting to happen.
For all you young guys out there you are a GODD@MN fool if you get married today in the US.
stevo
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Make enough money to have people take care of you when you can't.
A girl in her early twenties would still lick your balls with joy even when its all the way saggy, money speaks.
Never underestimate the power of wealth.
They say its cheaper to keep her. Feministic Humor.
Truth is, it's cheaper to not get entangled with her in the first place.
Giving up all your resources including your last name for something as fickle as love,
the fallacy of constant monopolized pussie and thinking they'll take care for you long term
is the worst possible investment known to man.
When you finally settle down, she has to carry her financial weight. Don't be the hero.
A girl in her early twenties would still lick your balls with joy even when its all the way saggy, money speaks.
Never underestimate the power of wealth.
They say its cheaper to keep her. Feministic Humor.
Truth is, it's cheaper to not get entangled with her in the first place.
Giving up all your resources including your last name for something as fickle as love,
the fallacy of constant monopolized pussie and thinking they'll take care for you long term
is the worst possible investment known to man.
When you finally settle down, she has to carry her financial weight. Don't be the hero.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
We all die alone, dafuq are you talking about? It's all about what you did in your life before,l and the legacy you have after due to how you impacted the world before. What will be your legacy?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Oh sure, why not?
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
You can't really plan this kind of thing no matter WHAT you do.
The best case is to simply accept that you WILL die alone, and get right with Jesus (or whoever) before it happens.
But if push came to shove, I'd choose a devoted partner over a paid servant any day of the week.
How do you do THAT?
Just make yourself INCREDIBLY valuable to enough people so they'll be DEVASTATED when you die.
You don't really need money for that.
The best case is to simply accept that you WILL die alone, and get right with Jesus (or whoever) before it happens.
But if push came to shove, I'd choose a devoted partner over a paid servant any day of the week.
How do you do THAT?
Just make yourself INCREDIBLY valuable to enough people so they'll be DEVASTATED when you die.
You don't really need money for that.
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That's kind of what I'm was getting at.
But yea...it sucks to not have any one to care about you.
As a young man, its no big deal cuz you can always change that.
That's kind of what I'm was getting at.
But yea...it sucks to not have any one to care about you.
As a young man, its no big deal cuz you can always change that.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
FEAR is doing the talking here.
Robert Greene's the 50th Law addresses this succinctly.
Realising and accepting that fundamentally you are alone in this world and at the end of the
day you can only truly rely on yourself. Sure, we build interdependent relationships in business and
in love; but everyone is at heart driven by their own self interest.
Acceptance of this should not be something to lament; it should be something that brings absolute freedom.
Ranger mike summed it up well.As an old guy,take my advice,and put yourself first.Live your life ! I wish I had back all the time and money I spent on women,as it got me nothing in life except money problems,stress,aggravation,and bull**** ! American women run (and ruin) your life !
dustmuffin
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I don't care. I'll be dead.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Poonani Maker
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yeah, it's an American woman thing, we've been Genocided culturally. Other countries live normally because there's not much materialistically to suck away their souls.