Question on being a chanllenge

[Avn_0903]

Well, being a challenge has always been the gist of getting a girlfriend. However what if a girl who eventually becomes ur girlfriend only likes u for being a challenge? What will happen if you stop being a challenge after u 2 are together. Will she stop liking you??? What do u guys think?

 

[john paul]

You need to take being a challenge clear into relationships. Slowly you ease out of it if its a LTR. Your not going to ask a girl to be yours and then instantly stop making her work for your attention.

Yes you need to make sure she knows shes yours but you still gotta make it fun for her. Sometimes when im kissing i will pull away and turn the TV on just to fvck with her mind and she loves it because she knows im joking but its still fun for her to try to get my attention back. Its that little challenge I give her everyonce in a while.

I could see in some LTRs where it would be ok to stop being a challenge eventually but for most relationships, expecially the high school ones, being a challenge is important, if not the key, to a succesful and healthy relationship.

 

[schttrj]

john, very rightly said! man, i would rather say, until you stop ejecting, u should keep on being the challenge!

 

[Axcell]

You ALWAYS need to continue to be a challenge, even when in a relationship. You are in high school, and probably won't be looking for a mature relationship that can actually be defined as a "LTR."
Remain a challenge and keep yourself as the prize once you keep a girl. Let her continue to want to strive for your attention. Let yourself be the busy one always and let her be the one that always calls you/asks you to chill! Sure, it's important to be proactive in a relationship, but you should always make it known that she is NOT your life - she is merely a part of it.