"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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speedF

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so about a month ago, i got this girl's number at a coffee shop. i called her back, and we talked for a few mins and she had to go.

anyhow, i called her back like a week later and she didn't pick up. so i just never called her back again, i was starting to see someone else so i didn't care.

few days ago, i logged onto myspace. i just randomly saw her while i was browsing around and recognized her face and name. she looks very hot now. iwas thinking of messaging her? but is that too weird because i dont really know her?

i know it's stupid, but let me know.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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penkitten

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speedF said:
so about a month ago, i got this girl's number at a coffee shop. i called her back, and we talked for a few mins and she had to go.

anyhow, i called her back like a week later and she didn't pick up. so i just never called her back again, i was starting to see someone else so i didn't care.

few days ago, i logged onto myspace. i just randomly saw her while i was browsing around and recognized her face and name. she looks very hot now. iwas thinking of messaging her? but is that too weird because i dont really know her?

i know it's stupid, but let me know.
you could message her and say "dont i know you from somewhere"?
 

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I'd say to go with it. I've developed some very good relationships by doing that (I make it a rule to have met the person before I send them a message, but it seems as though you have that covered).

Really, just do it. It's not a big deal.
 

floydtheater07

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I'd say to go with it. I've developed some very good relationships by doing that (I make it a rule to have met the person before I send them a message, but it seems as though you have that covered).

Really, just do it. It's not a big deal. And of course man, good luck.
 

speedF

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yea, i added her, a few days ago and she didn't respond.
anyhow, it's kinda childish, but do you think i should just block her so she can't read my profile? or just forget it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Boschy

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Man, sounds like a lost cause to me. Unless you can get her to remember you and see that she has some interest in you, then move on. But no harm in trying. You will have to be very specific about your meeting with her, and then be very specific about hooking up later. Think of a time, day, activity (coffee, lunch, art gallery) and see what happens, and get a phone number. Remember that most hot chicks get approached all the time by men. Since she met you, she's probably gotten more attention from other guys.
 

Socialreject

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penkitten said:
you could message her and say "dont i know you from somewhere"?
That one is a sucker for "yeah, that's why i don't go there anymore!". :)
 

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Well it won't hurt to try.

One question - when you first talked with her on the phone why did she end up having to go? My point is you should be the one to have to go - maybe you overcooked it a bit and turned it into a low IL situation from there.
 

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If she didn't give you the Myspace then you shouldn't be adding her. It's going to scream 'stalker' to the nth degree.

Give yourself more options.
 

speedF

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great, so i look like a tool now. thanks. i could block her now and make myself invisiable
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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