5string
Master Don Juan
speed dawgspeed dawg said:There is a fundamental element of marriage that many of you, Rollo included, are not addressing. I agree with Rollo's blog post and actually think this it is an outstanding site (I'm sure he knows this already though). But he did say that he had no real answer to why he proposed to Mrs. Tomassi.
Marriage is a religious institution. Without religion, there should probably be no marriage except to bear and raise children. It is THE fundamental base of marriage. I hate to bring this up because religion is frowned upon here and no one will agree, but that's MY OPINION, one I do happen to believe in. You know why I believe it? Because of personal experience in my own life. Think about it, at some point you have to address where marriage came from, and it wasn't just 'invented' by men. Marriage is not a Western phenomena. So spare me the black helicopter theories.
Now, by all means, flame away.
Don't take this as a flame, only a different perspective.
I disagree with you. Neither my wife or myself are religious. I married my wife because I truly loved her. She would say the same thing. By asking her to marry me, I told her that I was willing to commit to her. By saying yes, she committed to me. Really nothing more to it, at least for us. So why did I ask her really? Was it for a constant supply of poon? Nope. Can get that all day long. There was attraction, friendship, fun, someone I could count on when need be. Oh, and the sex was, and is still there. Many reasons actually. We really do rely on one another for many things. It's a partnership if you will with many rewards. Religion has nothing to do with it and neither of us wanted more kids. It's just me n her. We're a team.
Anyway, I really do enjoy being married to her. I still have the ol' oneitis for her, just don't show it much which keeps her interested.
Don't tell Mrs.5string I said that.